I have been so strong for ten years. I am crumbling

My heart goes out to you karmalady and to your daughter. Sending you both hugs and

Thank you, my eyes keep filling with tears

I am so sorry to read this. You appear such a strong capable ‘can do lady’ but trying to lift the pain our children suffer is so very hard.

I hope your DD will see the love she has given to the horse will carry with it some happy memories to lift her heart.

I am so sorry for the situation your daughter is facing and hope for a positive outcome.
It sounds as though you’ve not fully grieved for your husband karmalady, I wonder if you ever allowed yourself to be honest with others as well as yourself how devastated you were and still underneath, are.
Your’e always busy, busy, maybe scared of ‘giving in’ or appearing ‘weak’, perhaps it’s now time for some grief counselling, letting yourself mourn.

I’m so sorry, Karmalady. I can’t think of anything to say that could be of comfort to you, but my heart goes out to you and your daughter.

I am so sorry to read this, karmalady. It is understandable that losing a beloved horse has brought up the grief of losing your husband. Today, you are mourning for two, yourself and your daughter. Sending you both 💐 take care.

Your poor daughter Karma. I know from previous posts how much love and effort she has given to her horse. It's obviously bringing things back to you. Take things easy. Much love x

I am so very sorry karmalady. Such an onslaught of sadness. Be very kind to yourself and your poor daughter. I'll be thinking of you both.

I’m so sorry to read this, Karmalady. To have lost your husband so traumatically must be almost unbearable. The grief you are carrying for your loss makes it all the harder when your daughter is struggling with her own at the thought of losing her friend. You have let us know her heroic battle to save her beloved horse. Knowing you understand will help your daughter to cope in the days ahead.
Your ‘can do’ attitude is a real inspiration when I can’t be bothered to tackle a difficult task so I am grateful to you for sharing your life on the GM thread.
Look after yourself and your daughter 💐

So sorry and saddened to read your post karmalady. My heart goes to you and your daughter. The bond between human and horse is for ever. Look after yourself and your daughter as this tragedy inevitably raises what you had to live through 10 years ago. 💐💙💖

A lot of us widows cope by being busy, especially those who suffer a sudden loss, when the `what if` we all had as a couple becomes reality, when the worst has happened

The horse had a very big gut infection and he would not have survived so was been put to sleep just 20 minutes ago

Now that has happened, I think my DD will cope, often the `what if` is more traumatic on a psychological level. That horse has been so stoic and loving, through so much and at the end he had a gentle end to his life. She will appreciate that, same as I appreciate that my husband died doing what he loved, cycling

Life must end for all of us. I am glad I did not die first, I can cope, my husband would not have coped.

So sorry karmalady grief can't be quantified can it, I hope you and your daughter find strength and support during this time.

for you & your DD. Take care.

Grief does stay forever Sodapop

Take care of yourself and daughter. Often it can be the smallest thing that takes us to our lowest point again. Occasionally something happens and I think I must text my friend, she will find this funny, or I will ask someone for advice etc... Then I remember I can't contact them because they died many years ago.

Grief is life long as karmalady says. We find ways of sharing our life with it xx

I’m sorry for that outcome karmalady🥀

Ah this is so sad Karma , you and your daughter will feel bereft for a while but you are such a strong lady and I’m sure your daughter is the same, so as time passes things will feel better and you will both ‘soldier on’.
Love and best wishes to you both .

We have no control over these triggers- they come at the most unexpected moments and can knock us for six. Grief is a lifelong process and don't let anyone tell you any different. Just go with it- have a good bawl and feel sad for as long as it takes for you to see another perspective.
The grief we feel for much loved animals is a very special kind of grief too that people don't often asknowledge but it is no less valid for the breaved.
I wish you well.

Karmalady I understand what you are going through as something similar happened to me. I have had several major losses in my life but I was never able to grieve properly. Something seemed to block it
Then when my dog died suddenly I cried all the tears that I wasn't able to let out for those people. I think it might be a good thing to release all that pent up emotion even though you and your daughter are going through a sad time.

You're in my prayers, karmalady.

karmalady sorry you are grieving on two levels today 💐💐💐

I haven’t lost a husband, but we did lose one of DD’s horses, which was absolutely heartbreaking.

Sending you and your DD (((hugs)))

karmalady 💐

karmalady my thoughts are with you in your grief. xx