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Signs/messages after a person passes away

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hamster58 Mon 12-Jan-26 09:01:20

Does anyone feel that after someone in your world has gone that sometimes you get ‘messages’ from them. I don’t mean hearing their voice but rather things that happen that instantly make you feel like it’s a communication from them? Any examples would be interesting to hear…

Greyduster Mon 12-Jan-26 11:15:29

Since DH died, nearly four years ago, I have twice heard him say my name. Each time I have been wide awake and active, so not a dream. He was Welsh and the way he said my name had a particular intonation. Anyone among our family and friends would have recognised it immediately. It sounded as if he was searching for me. I’m not given to flights of fancy, but I was very disconcerted and saddened by it, not comforted at all.

Kate1949 Mon 12-Jan-26 11:20:11

I don't believe in the afterlife and I am not religious. However, when my brother died aged 24, I had a dream that I could see him with blue skies around him and he looked happy. He told me not to worry as he was fine now.

He was a very troubled soul and took his own life. This dream was a very small comfort.

Oreo Mon 12-Jan-26 11:26:45

fancyflowers

I believe that there are spirits around us that we are not equipped to perceive with our limited senses.

I always compare it to ants, busy doing whatever it is they do, with no perception of the world around them. They don't know about buildings, transport, in fact all aspects of our daily lives.

I think we are the same, going about our business with no concept of another dimension around us.

Sorry if that sounds a bit daft, but it's what I believe.

You could well be right.

Chestnut Mon 12-Jan-26 11:52:42

fancyflowers

I believe that there are spirits around us that we are not equipped to perceive with our limited senses.

I always compare it to ants, busy doing whatever it is they do, with no perception of the world around them. They don't know about buildings, transport, in fact all aspects of our daily lives.

I think we are the same, going about our business with no concept of another dimension around us.

Sorry if that sounds a bit daft, but it's what I believe.

I agree totally. Our human brains are only able to perceive what we see in front of us. We can't see everything in the universe. We can't see the wind but we know it's there when we feel a rush of air on our face or see trees waving around.

It seems that some people are able to see more than others however. While some people are more analytical, more scientific, others feed off their feelings, are more spiritual by nature and can sense things.

So although these things may be all around us most people aren't aware of anything while others sense things occasionally especially when someone close dies.

Fallingstar Mon 12-Jan-26 12:24:55

I would love to believe there are spirits around us, have had several experiences that cannot be logically explained. Have already posted the experience after my dear sister died and won’t bore you with others but sometimes I feel lost loved ones close to me, not only in times of trouble but just on an ordinary untroubled day. And it is comforting.

ginny Mon 12-Jan-26 12:55:31

DamaskRose

No, I don’t but I’m glad people do if it brings them some degree of happiness or peace.

I agreee but memories and emotions can trigger all sorts of things in your mind.

yogitree Mon 12-Jan-26 13:10:20

fancyflowers

I believe that there are spirits around us that we are not equipped to perceive with our limited senses.

I always compare it to ants, busy doing whatever it is they do, with no perception of the world around them. They don't know about buildings, transport, in fact all aspects of our daily lives.

I think we are the same, going about our business with no concept of another dimension around us.

Sorry if that sounds a bit daft, but it's what I believe.

Not daft at all fancy flowers, at least not to me. Your analogy is along the lines of the way I think.

Cressy Mon 12-Jan-26 13:48:50

In one of the bedrooms we have touch tap bedside lamps. I remember one day feeling very down and wandering into the room I noticed one of the lights was on. This has continued to happen over the years and whilst I know it is not actually my mother sending a sign it brings memories of my mother’s love and comfort to me. I don’t think I will ever be changing those lamps. 🩷

Retread Mon 12-Jan-26 14:31:30

I agree that we return to stardust, as atoms. But what I wonder about is energy, our life force, because energy never dies.

Witzend Mon 12-Jan-26 14:44:26

Not as such, but during a few days after my MiL died (too young 😰) I had a very strong sense of her presence in our house - I could almost ‘see’ her sitting on the sofa. Should add that she’d always been happy at our house, whereas her last few years with FIL, had not been easy, since he could be very difficult.

I put it down entirely to my imagination, so after my father died only 6 months later, incidentally from the same cancer, I fully expected to ‘sense’ his presence in either our house, or my mother’s.
But there was absolutely nothing. Zilch,

Maremia Mon 12-Jan-26 15:23:54

fancyflowers, your explanation makes sweet sense.
I have had a very comforting experience of the 'butterfly' kind.
And yes, Retread, school science claimed that energy can neither be created nor destroyed.

ViceVersa Mon 12-Jan-26 15:32:23

While I personally don't believe that there is any kind of 'afterlife', I know the notion does brings comfort to others and I have no problems with that whatsoever.

HowVeryDareYou2 Mon 12-Jan-26 19:08:32

No, and I don't believe in any kind of afterlife, but can understand why some people do.

Gran22boys Mon 12-Jan-26 19:19:51

I have had no experiences but I would love to. I am a very sensitive person so why don’t I feel or see those I loved-and still love? If I could only see my lovely grandmother once more I would be so happy.

Nannee49 Mon 12-Jan-26 19:44:27

I think it's when the physical happenings are inexplicable that give rise to thoughts of an afterlife or alternative universe.

When my lovely Dad passed it was a very hot July. I was driving home from Mum's with my pregnant daughter in the car with the windows wound down. Suddenly, I felt something strike my arm as though something had been thrown through the open window. There was no-one around, no cars passed and no-one on the other side of the fairly wide road.

Totally puzzled as to what it might be, I pulled over and down between the side of the seat and the door was a red & white Haribo heart sweet. God knows where it came from & I would've thought I'd imagined being hit by it if my daughter hadn't been in the car with me. What I do know is that Dad loved his toffees and was a massive Liverpool supporter - couldn't have been a more appropriate reminder but such a mysterious thing to happen.

Whiff Tue 13-Jan-26 08:29:37

I am an atheist so don't believe in any gods etc. But for years after my husband died I heard him drop his briefcases in the porch every night dead on 6.30pm. I used to see him sitting in his armchair surrounded by files and on his lap top.
But it was just my imagination.

I moved here 6.5 years ago but when I have a rant at him for dieing I see him with that stupid grin on his face . As if to say feeling better. It's just my imagination again .

Next month it will be 22 years since he died.

You have to find comfort where you can . Mind is in my imagination.

Grandmabatty Tue 13-Jan-26 08:36:28

When dad died, the family came to their flat. We shared many lovely stories about him. On a number of occasions, the living room light flickered. It hadn't ever done it before nor since

Kate1949 Tue 13-Jan-26 10:20:50

Our nephew died of cancer aged 16. I visited him in hospital every day in my lunch hour to support his parents. I was there when he died. He suffered terribly. At the moment of his death he leaned forward and put his thumb up.

Labradora Tue 13-Jan-26 12:43:36

fancyflowers

I believe that there are spirits around us that we are not equipped to perceive with our limited senses.

I always compare it to ants, busy doing whatever it is they do, with no perception of the world around them. They don't know about buildings, transport, in fact all aspects of our daily lives.

I think we are the same, going about our business with no concept of another dimension around us.

Sorry if that sounds a bit daft, but it's what I believe.

That's a fair enough possibility.
Cf " The Mothman Prophecies" film. The lead character contacts someone who , like him, experienced a series of odd happenings around /visions of the " Mothman".To the query why these paranormal beings did not contact humans and explain their origins , the character says " have you ever tried to explain yourself to a cockroach...."
Spooky entertaining movie worth a viewing imo.

bookwormbabe Tue 13-Jan-26 14:03:03

Interesting to see several references to robins. Some time after my mother died I was in the garden and a robin appeared and stayed standing near me for ages. It appeared to be watching me. I remember thinking if that was my mother visiting me I would be mortified because the garden was (still is) very untidy, and my mother was a very proud and keen gardener.

Jenny62 Tue 13-Jan-26 14:05:01

My lovely 92 year old mum died on 18/12/25. The following morning I found 2 small white feathers underneath a magazine on my table. I love alone, no one could have put them there. They made me smile. Mum had been in care for 2 years, she had dementia. I was with her when she died. She didn’t look like herself. A few nights later I had a very vivid dream that I had white worms in my eyes, and they just kept coming. Sense then I can remember how she always looked. I read up on this type of dream and it says it because you are trying to forget something you’ve seen. Of topic, I know but really wanted to tell someone

polnan Tue 13-Jan-26 14:06:05

yes, my mum died many years ago and I have always, and often felt her "near"

my dh died just before covid, and like some others have said, he was a smoker, and I frequently am aware of him.

MickyD Tue 13-Jan-26 14:09:19

Yes and I know they are trying to contact us all the time - they are right beside us - if only we’d be more open and aware.

Naesodaft Tue 13-Jan-26 14:12:20

On the morning of our son’s funeral my husband stopped to pick up a shiny new penny from the pavement. He said it was a gift from our son. After that he would never pass a penny dropped on the pavement. Fast forward 25 years when DH passed away and pennies started appearing unexpectedly in the house and garden.

Essexgirl145 Tue 13-Jan-26 14:13:22

Yes, I have, my Mother appeared in a dream just before some one came into my life and both my Parents appeared in another dream. I have learned since that they will only appear if your life is in danger and mine was on both occasions