I feel utterly helpless.
My DD and her partner split amicably last spring. He rented a flat nearby and they were co parenting their 11 year old daughter who, though initially being devastated by her parents ' breakup, seemed happy having two homes and cooperating parents. We all had a week away as usual with our other daughter and her child. Just after we got back, DDs ex was assaulted by a stranger. A few days later he was arrested and questioned. By the next morning, after his release without charge, he was found dead in his flat, by his own hand.. Since then DGD, now aged 12, has increasingly struggled to cope and yes has been having therapy for a while. Therapist now feels she needs to see a psychiatrist. DGD masks a lot but has been refusing school, says she has no pleasure in anything, can't mask any more and is ( understandably ) pale and angry. DD herself is struggling, emotionally and financially, and has significant health problems. We live an hour away from them but we meet as often as we can. I don't know whether anyone else has experienced a situation like this. We're all extremely worried and feel helpless and I'd welcome helpful comments. I should add that DD is advice averse and we're often in walking on eggshells.
