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Bereavement

My husband suddenly left me

(31 Posts)
Mackir Thu 12-Feb-26 03:18:59

I have been trying to cope but it seems i am getting weaker and weaker. I no longer want to be alive without him. Yet I am. How do you go on? Just pretend eeverything is okay? Or do you just curl up in your bed and never get up? I have family but they all live so far away. It has been three months and still I cannot eat a thing. But i feed my dog. She is my only comfort.

DamaskRose Thu 12-Feb-26 20:26:35

I’m so very sorry Mackir. It is early days but that’s not much comfort to you in the middle of it. Some really good advice here especially about getting some bereavement counselling. And please come back here as often as you like, others have been in your position and really can help. Sending you a hug and some virtual flowers.

Ashcombe Thu 14-May-26 07:40:06

I’ve just read through this thread and am so heartened to read your updates where we can see you’re starting to turn a corner, Macaydia. Sometimes, folk post about problems then don’t return to update on how they’re coping nor to acknowledge the thoughtful support and advice.

I am glad you’ve had professional help and you are taking care of yourself and your dog. Pets are such a comfort. Sending best wishes for your continued progress. 💐

silverlining48 Thu 14-May-26 08:21:57

Hello again Macaydia good to hear how you are getting on.
Often writing down one’s thoughts snd feelings frees us up and lightens the load. flowers

Retread Thu 14-May-26 08:42:20

Dear Macaydia, I have not experienced the death of a husband but like most people, I have experienced the heartbreak of loss.

I also found that writing letters to the person who has gone eases the grief, it is very therapeutic ✍️ or, talking to a trained counsellor. It helps.

I remember a time in my life when I literally could not see in colour and everything was as grey as my mood, and I remember also the day when colour crept back in to my life.

Keep chatting on here, you will be looked after.

🥰

Cossy Thu 14-May-26 09:45:41

Hello, thank you for being brave enough to post here and thank you for updating us.

I wish you the very best, keep your dog and us close to you. thanks