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RIP Himself 💙

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FriedGreenTomatoes2 Sun 22-Feb-26 17:30:02

My darling husband of 52 years died in the hospice yesterday afternoon.

My heart is broken today.

This bravest of men suffered dreadfully with progression of his oesophageal cancer these last 10 months I can’t begin to tell you what he had to endure.

He was admitted to the Christie early in January and thence by ambulance to hospice for his last two weeks of life. I stayed by his side for this past month, sleeping in a recliner chair by his bedside.

My overwhelming emotion at present is relief that he has been released from his struggle. He had 3 oesophageal stents in situ. I am glad that he wasn’t in any pain at the end of his life.

That was always his biggest fear and I’m so grateful he was at least spared that fate.

He once promised me, months ago now, that when he died he was going to “take all this sadness with me and leave you to the joy of living”.

I’m holding you to that promise my most brave and valiant man. My life will never be the same, I will miss you so very much, but I will try my very best to stay strong ~ as you urged me be. 💕

Thank you to all who have kept us in your hearts and prayers during this pilgrimage. I’ve read GN most days and know how blessed I have been to have so much outpouring of friendship and love. I’ve been quite humbled to be honest. Xxx

Susan56 Sun 22-Feb-26 17:49:48

I’m so sorry.Sending you love and strength and keeping you in my prayers.

The love you shared and your care and strength for each other shone through your posts.

May your amazing man rest in peace and may you be surrounded by the love and care of your family, friends and virtual friends.

MartavTaurus Sun 22-Feb-26 17:51:08

I'm so sorry to hear this FGT.
He sounds like a very special person.

Kate1949 Sun 22-Feb-26 17:51:47

I am so very, very sorry. flowers

MT62 Sun 22-Feb-26 17:52:37

Oh sorry & so sad for your loss FGT. I haven’t seen your posts on here for while & did ask about you, (I haven’t been on for a few months) as I enjoy your posts.
I lost my dear friend to throat cancer a few years ago, so can imagine your pain.
🫂

Beechnut Sun 22-Feb-26 17:55:14

I remember his words to you Fried and I’m so very sorry for your loss and send you my love xx

Usedtobeblonde Sun 22-Feb-26 17:55:35

flowers and condolences.

Greenfinch Sun 22-Feb-26 17:56:20

Sending love and prayerful thoughts to you at this saddest of all times.

merlotgran Sun 22-Feb-26 17:56:28

I’m so very sorry to read your sad news, FGT. Sending you love and strength for the days ahead. Take care of yourself.

Rosie51 Sun 22-Feb-26 17:56:53

FGT I'm so very sorry to hear this news. Please be kind to yourself, just as your darling husband would want. You're both in my prayers.

Shelflife Sun 22-Feb-26 17:57:24

My thoughts are with you FGT. Hang on to those wonderful words your husband gave you about taking all the sadness with him and leave you to the joy of living. That has really brought tears to my eyes. He had a very difficult time and you had to witness that - I can only imagine how distressing that must have been. I wish you peace and strength. 💐🌸

LindaPat Sun 22-Feb-26 17:57:25

I'm so sorry to hear this FGT. Sending love and strength to you. Please take care of yourself. We are all thinking of you. xxx

Pantglas2 Sun 22-Feb-26 17:58:59

Oh this is the saddest news we all hoped wasn’t coming 💐FGT

You talk about his bravery and I’d like to add yours too over the last three years as you supported him every step of the way where we all willed you on 🥰

Take care of yourself now with smiles at your fondest memories x

Redcar Sun 22-Feb-26 17:59:00

I’m so so sorry to hear your news fgt, please accept my sincere sympathies to you and your family.
flowers

Pittcity Sun 22-Feb-26 18:01:12

Sending a big hug from Essex to Urmston.

TillyTrotter Sun 22-Feb-26 18:01:55

No words dear fgt but tears are falling. For what you and your darling man endured.
You were there by his side “in sickness and in health” as we all promise to be.
I’m deeply sad for you and all your family xxx

Grannyme6 Sun 22-Feb-26 18:04:03

With deepest sympathy, dear FGT.

Baggs Sun 22-Feb-26 18:05:23

So sorry, FGT. It is hard but you are strong. I'm glad he is out of pain and discomfort at last. Much love xx

RosiesMawagain Sun 22-Feb-26 18:07:17

A brave post FGT - sending my personal condolences, a hand hold and the gentlest of hugs flowers

Witzend Sun 22-Feb-26 18:09:29

I’m so very sorry, FGT. ❤️💐
Please take the very best care of yourself, as I’m sure your dear dh would wish. xx

Annapops Sun 22-Feb-26 18:09:37

So sorry to hear your sad news. The love you both have for one another will never die. X

Alygran Sun 22-Feb-26 18:10:57

fgt my deepest sympathy to you and your lovely family. I am so sorry to hear this news. Love and prayers 🌹

Aveline Sun 22-Feb-26 18:11:01

So sorry FGT. What a whirlwind of emotions you must be feeling just now. Take comfort from his kind, wise words and knowing that he's not suffering any longer. You must be exhausted too.
Very best wishes.

Georgesgran Sun 22-Feb-26 18:11:41

Wonderful words from Grandmafrench. She said it all.
Sincere condolences FGT
🥀

kittylester Sun 22-Feb-26 18:13:23

FGT that was a brave and loving post. Sending you lots of gentle hugs.

Gagagran Sun 22-Feb-26 18:15:12

Such very sad news FGT and my heartfelt sympathy is with you and your family. I have said a prayer for you and your DH every night and will continue to do so. May he Rest in Peace.