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RIP Himself ๐Ÿ’™

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FriedGreenTomatoes2 Sun 22-Feb-26 17:30:02

My darling husband of 52 years died in the hospice yesterday afternoon.

My heart is broken today.

This bravest of men suffered dreadfully with progression of his oesophageal cancer these last 10 months I canโ€™t begin to tell you what he had to endure.

He was admitted to the Christie early in January and thence by ambulance to hospice for his last two weeks of life. I stayed by his side for this past month, sleeping in a recliner chair by his bedside.

My overwhelming emotion at present is relief that he has been released from his struggle. He had 3 oesophageal stents in situ. I am glad that he wasnโ€™t in any pain at the end of his life.

That was always his biggest fear and Iโ€™m so grateful he was at least spared that fate.

He once promised me, months ago now, that when he died he was going to โ€œtake all this sadness with me and leave you to the joy of livingโ€.

Iโ€™m holding you to that promise my most brave and valiant man. My life will never be the same, I will miss you so very much, but I will try my very best to stay strong ~ as you urged me be. ๐Ÿ’•

Thank you to all who have kept us in your hearts and prayers during this pilgrimage. Iโ€™ve read GN most days and know how blessed I have been to have so much outpouring of friendship and love. Iโ€™ve been quite humbled to be honest. Xxx

Millie22 Mon 23-Feb-26 08:53:47

I'm so sorry to hear your sad news. There are no words.

It's strange how even if we don't know people we somehow feel that we do.

Look after yourself. Sending you a ๐Ÿค— and ๐Ÿ’• x

Patsy70 Mon 23-Feb-26 08:52:45

So very sad to read this. Be comforted by all the happy memories you have shared with your most brave and valiant man. โ™ฅ๏ธ๐Ÿ’

Hatty05darling Mon 23-Feb-26 08:47:21

I am so sorry FGT! Words are so inadequate!! Your post has made me resolve to be nicer to DH who is quite poorly atm!! Trouble is heโ€™s a total pessimist and Iโ€™m (usually) the opposite!!
Sending you a huge hug FGT ๐ŸŒป๐ŸŒป

glammagran Mon 23-Feb-26 08:45:15

Iโ€™ve only just logged onto GN and seen your very sad message on your loss FGTโ€™s. My heart goes out to you and your family. Your very close bond with Himself has been so apparent in your posts over the years. He will live in your heart forever. Take great care of yourself. ๐Ÿ’”

CariadAgain Mon 23-Feb-26 08:40:36

So sorry. Take care of yourself.

love0c Mon 23-Feb-26 08:40:04

So very sorry for your loss FGT.

BladeAnnie Mon 23-Feb-26 08:37:53

So very sorry to read this - you are in my thoughts ๐Ÿ™ ๐Ÿ’

AskAlice Mon 23-Feb-26 08:31:22

So sorry for your loss and sending you love at this sad time.

BlueSapphire Mon 23-Feb-26 08:22:00

I'm so very sorry and sending you love at this very sad time; it doesn't seem like it now, but you will gather your strength from your DH's wise words and live for him. xx

Icandoit Mon 23-Feb-26 08:21:22

Don't really know you but you sound a very special lady for an extra special man. Sending hugs to you. It's never easy flowers

harrigran Mon 23-Feb-26 08:12:57

My sincere condolences on the loss of your dear husband.
There are no words that will ease the pain at this time but please know that you are thought of with love ๐Ÿ’

NotAGran55 Mon 23-Feb-26 07:52:19

Deepest sympathy to you, your family and friends of Himself.

Sparklefizz Mon 23-Feb-26 07:44:40

I'm so very sorry to hear your sad news. Sending love and hugs to you and your family. flowers

Marydoll Mon 23-Feb-26 07:41:51

Sending love to you and your family. โ™ฅ๏ธ

Oopsadaisy1 Mon 23-Feb-26 07:38:10

So very sorry to hear your sad news.
Sending love and hugs to you and your family.

madeleine45 Mon 23-Feb-26 07:28:57

Dear FGT
I send you my condolences and prayers for peace now.

NanKate Mon 23-Feb-26 07:09:16

How dreadfully sad. Your special man is now at Peace. Sending my condolences ๐Ÿ’

Marzipan22 Mon 23-Feb-26 07:02:21

I'm so sorry. ๐ŸŒน

'Say not good night, but in some brighter clime bid me good morning.'

RosesandLilac Mon 23-Feb-26 06:36:29

So sorry FGT, sending you my love and hugs x

karmalady Mon 23-Feb-26 06:13:42

Love and strength to you FGT I am so sorry

barmcake Mon 23-Feb-26 06:03:00

Deepest sympathy. I know nothing can ease the pain just now but your dear husband is now at peace.

Grran Mon 23-Feb-26 06:00:54

Sending love to you FGT.

Greendress Mon 23-Feb-26 05:38:06

So very sorry to hear your sad news FGT. Sending hugs and my deepest sympathy

Macaydia Mon 23-Feb-26 05:34:07

FGT, I am so overwhelmed to read your post. Please take care and try to get nutritional nourishment each day, even if just a meal replacement drink etc... Sleep a lot, walk some if you are able. Rest and journal letters to your dear if it makes things easier. Know you are loved by him and your GNters wrap our arms of condolences around your tired soul.

Allsorts Mon 23-Feb-26 04:39:08

You have my deapest sympathy FGT, the love you shared will go on, it never goes. He is out of pain now. Be kind to yourself
and take your time.