Gransnet forums

Bereavement

RIP Himself 💙

(239 Posts)
FriedGreenTomatoes2 Sun 22-Feb-26 17:30:02

My darling husband of 52 years died in the hospice yesterday afternoon.

My heart is broken today.

This bravest of men suffered dreadfully with progression of his oesophageal cancer these last 10 months I can’t begin to tell you what he had to endure.

He was admitted to the Christie early in January and thence by ambulance to hospice for his last two weeks of life. I stayed by his side for this past month, sleeping in a recliner chair by his bedside.

My overwhelming emotion at present is relief that he has been released from his struggle. He had 3 oesophageal stents in situ. I am glad that he wasn’t in any pain at the end of his life.

That was always his biggest fear and I’m so grateful he was at least spared that fate.

He once promised me, months ago now, that when he died he was going to “take all this sadness with me and leave you to the joy of living”.

I’m holding you to that promise my most brave and valiant man. My life will never be the same, I will miss you so very much, but I will try my very best to stay strong ~ as you urged me be. 💕

Thank you to all who have kept us in your hearts and prayers during this pilgrimage. I’ve read GN most days and know how blessed I have been to have so much outpouring of friendship and love. I’ve been quite humbled to be honest. Xxx

NannyJan53 Sun 22-Feb-26 19:53:14

So sad to hear this. You have both been in my thoughts daily. A very special man.

Thinking of you and your family X

LOUISA1523 Sun 22-Feb-26 19:59:53

I am very sorry to hear this 💐

GrandmaC47 Sun 22-Feb-26 20:00:24

So sorry to hear this. My sincere condolences to you and your family. xx

Esmay Sun 22-Feb-26 20:02:16

Im so sorry to read your sad news.
Grief is a terrible pain and I really feel for you .
Sending you my sincere condolences and a big hug .
Take care and
God bless you
Esmay
💐

Greyduster Sun 22-Feb-26 20:04:04

I can’t tell you how sad I am to hear this. With his determination and his positivity, it was my fervent hope that he would defy the odds. My condolences to you, and to your family.

Iam64 Sun 22-Feb-26 20:04:45

Thank you for taking the time to share this sad news with your many gransnet friends. The love you shared with your darling man will stay with you and I hope give some comfort as you live with his legacy, the joy of living
Sincere condolences

Ashcombe Sun 22-Feb-26 20:09:41

A wonderful tribute to the kind of man your husband must have been to be selflessly considering your needs in his advice to you. Thank you for writing what must have been a very difficult post.

Blossoming Sun 22-Feb-26 20:12:47

So very sorry to read this, sending you love xx

Smileless2012 Sun 22-Feb-26 20:12:51

So very sorry flowers.

benjamina Sun 22-Feb-26 20:17:07

Just saying how sorry I am to hear your very sad news. Your love for each other shone through. Life is sometimes incredibly cruel. This is one of those times. Sending love and care to a very special lady x

Justwidowed Sun 22-Feb-26 20:19:18

Deepest sympathy to you and your family.
Sending prayers and love.🙏

winterwhite Sun 22-Feb-26 20:19:40

Admiration for the strength and spirit you’ve shown, and deepest sympathy. Rest now.

dustyangel Sun 22-Feb-26 20:26:09

My deepest sympathy FGT Thinking of you flowers

CanadianGran Sun 22-Feb-26 20:27:39

Oh, I am so sorry to hear this, my condolences to you and your family. It is so hard to watch the ones we love suffer, and now you can know he is resting in peace.flowers

Spinnaker Sun 22-Feb-26 20:29:17

My heartfelt condolences to you and your family FGT. I have thought of you every day for a long time now and I have no words that will make it better for you.

You and the wonderful late Phoenix were the two kindest to me back in the early days (I was under a different name, as were you) and I will never forget this. You have been missed a great deal and one day, when you're feeling in a better place, I hope to see your name again back on these threads.

Take care lovely lady and rest in peace Mr. FGT. flowers

Gymstagran Sun 22-Feb-26 20:32:02

So very sorry FGT

nantoseven Sun 22-Feb-26 20:32:29

I am so sorry. Sending love and strength to you in the days and months ahead. xxx

Calendargirl Sun 22-Feb-26 20:35:30

You have often been in my thoughts.

Saddened to hear this news.

Sending you love and sympathy.

flowers

TerriBull Sun 22-Feb-26 20:40:17

Desperately sorry to read your devestating news FGT. You painted a picture of a marriage at its very best, full of warmth, humour and joy. I don't think there is one person on GN who read your descriptions of "himself" who would have doubted how deep that love you had for your husband was. Your relationship was very special and so are you FGT.

Deepest sympathy to you and your family flowers xxx

brook2704 Sun 22-Feb-26 20:47:17

I am so sorry to hear this fgt sending you the gentlest hug and thinking of you and your dearest family at this awful sad time ❤️

mumofmadboys Sun 22-Feb-26 20:48:20

So sorry to hear your news. Sending love and strength x

Scapa1 Sun 22-Feb-26 20:49:39

So sorry to hear this, it has been a long journey. Stay brave.

Grannmarie Sun 22-Feb-26 20:49:52

I'm so very sorry to read your sad news about Himself, FGT. The two of you have been in my daily thoughts and prayers throughout your sad journey. Your dear man is at peace now, and I hope that, in time, you and yours will find comfort and consolation in memories of happier days.
God bless and comfort you all in your sorrow. Take care. 💐🕯🙏

Aldom Sun 22-Feb-26 20:50:51

"Three things remain. Faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love."
My thoughts are with you and your family. Sending you love and strength for the coming years.

Retread Sun 22-Feb-26 20:55:36

A very sad post. A wonderful promise to embrace once more the joy of living. He sounds like an amazing person. Condolences. thanks