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RIP Himself 💙

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FriedGreenTomatoes2 Sun 22-Feb-26 17:30:02

My darling husband of 52 years died in the hospice yesterday afternoon.

My heart is broken today.

This bravest of men suffered dreadfully with progression of his oesophageal cancer these last 10 months I can’t begin to tell you what he had to endure.

He was admitted to the Christie early in January and thence by ambulance to hospice for his last two weeks of life. I stayed by his side for this past month, sleeping in a recliner chair by his bedside.

My overwhelming emotion at present is relief that he has been released from his struggle. He had 3 oesophageal stents in situ. I am glad that he wasn’t in any pain at the end of his life.

That was always his biggest fear and I’m so grateful he was at least spared that fate.

He once promised me, months ago now, that when he died he was going to “take all this sadness with me and leave you to the joy of living”.

I’m holding you to that promise my most brave and valiant man. My life will never be the same, I will miss you so very much, but I will try my very best to stay strong ~ as you urged me be. 💕

Thank you to all who have kept us in your hearts and prayers during this pilgrimage. I’ve read GN most days and know how blessed I have been to have so much outpouring of friendship and love. I’ve been quite humbled to be honest. Xxx

nanaK54 Sun 22-Feb-26 20:58:14

I am so sorry flowers

luluaugust Sun 22-Feb-26 21:16:55

My condolences to you and your family flowers

Cherrytree59 Sun 22-Feb-26 21:18:17

My sincere condolences to you and your lovely family.
I still think of you both as
Urmstongran and himself having followed you both on your Ryanair travels .
I hope in time your shared memories will bring you comfort

RIP MrUrmston🕯

imaround Sun 22-Feb-26 21:22:29

I am so very sorry for your loss.

anna7 Sun 22-Feb-26 21:23:55

I'm so sorry. Sending love x

Chocolatelovinggran Sun 22-Feb-26 21:27:05

Do sorry to hear this, FGT.
I hope that the love that you shared can bring you some comfort.
A long, happy marriage is a wonderful achievement.

dragonfly46 Sun 22-Feb-26 21:31:33

I weep with you FGT my thoughts have been with you constantly.
Try and take this time to reflect and recover a little the strength you with need going forwards.
Sending you and your family gentle hugs.

EkwaNimitee Sun 22-Feb-26 21:34:22

I am so very sorry, my impression is of a wonderfully brave man …..often in my thoughts both of you,

DamaskRose Sun 22-Feb-26 21:38:35

I’m so sorry to hear this very sad news FGT. Sending you love and prayers. Take care of yourself. Xx

Nightsky2 Sun 22-Feb-26 21:46:03

Such sad news. My sincere condolences.

ginny Sun 22-Feb-26 22:02:23

So sorry to read this sad news .x

jusnoneed Sun 22-Feb-26 22:02:30

Condolences to you FGT

Grannynannywanny Sun 22-Feb-26 22:05:35

Oh I’m so sorry to read your very sad news FGT. Sincere condolences to you and your family 💐

Nannytopsy Sun 22-Feb-26 22:13:23

You and himself have had a long, hard journey and it should comfort you that you have been with him every step of the way. Be kind to yourself and take his lovely words to heart.
I’m so very sorry 🌹

Suki70 Sun 22-Feb-26 22:13:39

Such very sad news FGT. Stay strong and heed your darling man’s words. 💐

wildrose Sun 22-Feb-26 22:14:09

I was not familiar with your situation but I send my condolences - you obviously loved, indeed love, each other very much flowers

BoggledMind Sun 22-Feb-26 22:28:05

Please accept my sincere condolences flowers

mamaa Sun 22-Feb-26 22:30:20

Dear Urms/FGT I’m so sorry to read about your sad news.
Just try to recall Himselfs selfless words to you whenever things seem too hard to bear; they will be of comfort to you I’m sure through the difficult days ahead.
Sending love and my condolences to you and your family, thinking of you all and
may Himself now rest in peace, his struggle at an end. x

JenniferEccles Sun 22-Feb-26 22:32:54

So so sorry to hear your sad news FGT
I hope your brave husband’s words to you will bring you comfort in time.
Condolences to you and your family.

I would also like to thank you for taking the time to come on here to tell us your sad news.
It can’t have been easy.

cornergran Sun 22-Feb-26 22:35:39

To say I’m sorry for your loss is so inadequate, but I am so sorry for the loss of your courageous, wise and dear man. Your own courage has shone through, for now please just be as you are. My love to you and your family.

Luckygirl3 Sun 22-Feb-26 22:51:32

A sad day and I am sending a handhold. It is a huge blessing that there was a hospice place for him where his pain could be properly addressed and his comfort prioritised. I hope you have family around to day. x

Galaxy Sun 22-Feb-26 22:53:06

I am so so sorry FGT, I have been thinking about you. You write so beautifully about your husband. Look after yourself x

Lovetopaint037 Sun 22-Feb-26 22:54:33

Reading your post has made me weep. It is so full of love and a tribute to your husband. It so resonates with me and so many others as we reach the last years of our lives and realise there will be a parting for us in the near future. Your dear husband’s words will stay with me. Thank you for sharing them. You will always have your husband as he is a part of you. That can’t change nor the knowledge that you supported him with the greatest love to the very end.

Cressy Sun 22-Feb-26 22:57:07

Himself gave you a wonderful gift with his words and I hope in time you will find your joy in living again. In the meantime be kind to yourself and keep going as best you can. I am so very sorry for you all. X

SueDonim Sun 22-Feb-26 23:06:42

I’ve only now come onto GN this evening, FGT and am broken-hearted for you and your beloved husband. I am so, so sorry. You have both been brave above and beyond the call of duty in this life.

Thinking of you and your family and sending my heartfelt love to you all. Xxx