Newly widowed

So very sorry for your loss HelterSkelter1, just awful; sending hugs xxx

Sorry for your loss, my thoughts are with you x

I'm very sorry for your loss xx

So sorry for your loss 💐

Helterskelter

Someone sent this to me when I was nursing my terminally ill husband. It helped ❤️

"I know you're sad, so I won't tell you to have a good day. Instead, I advise you to simply have a day. Stay alive, feed yourself well, wear comfortable clothes, and don't give up on yourself just yet. It’ll get better. Until then, have a day.

💐 Very hard time for you I know. Condolences and strength to you.

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Heartfelt condolences to you x

That is of course sad to read about your husband’s death. It will be difficult for a while but after his funeral and his Will sorted you will then be able to slowly feel better.
My late hudband also died suddenly after experiencing many strong pains. I also felt it was the best for him.

I am so sorry for your loss HelterSkelter. Sending my deepest condolences 💐

Thank you so much everyone. It has really helped to read your posts. What a lot of us there are. And I am a new girl in the club.
Thank you again for your comments.

Today has been another day of phone calls and I have been treated so kindly by many. Off to bed now. Hope to sleep better as I am really tired.

i am so sorry for your loss, i still miss my husband 22 years after loosing him, i was his carer for 7 years, he had a virus in his brain, he had a fall and was taken to hospital on saturday, i went to collect him next day but he had passed out and they gave him a drug that caused a massive bleed, i had to switch the machine off next day as he was brain dead, i still carry the guilt even though we had talked about it and i had promised not to leave him like that. i had to leave the house we had as i could not cope staying there without him. i was 39 at the time. sometimes you never get over it. i wish you well and sending hugs.

My thoughts are with you 💐

I am so sorry. 🌹

My best wishes to you too HelterSkelter1 . 💐

I know exactly how you must be feeling, as my darling Husband died just 10 days ago too, after a long slow illness .
I will PM you.

So sorry to hear you've lost him 🥀

So very sorry for your loss.
My dear friend's husband died in February following a long illness. It was initially a great relief but she is now facing the reality of being a widow.
Sending much love xx

I was widowed at the age of 40. One thing I did learn is that it takes courage to ask for help and that may well be what you need to do. Hopefully your GP can help if you can’t sleep or feel very anxious. There are organisations which advise and help bereaved people in many ways. On line groups such as Gransnet can be reassuring as you read of others who are in a similar position. Friends and relatives may wish to help but don’t know how so you need to tell them. In my town there are groups run by the hospice and also one of the undertakers where you can talk about your feelings. You can search on line for counselling services or ask at the Gp practice.
Just a few ideas.
You’ll have good and bad days. Good days show you that it’s possible to cope. Bad days will soon be outnumbered by them.

Sending you condolences. It is a path we dont want to tread. My DH died last Oct after a very long cancer journey.

I am so sorry for your loss.

Sending love. Be kind to yourself xx

So sorry to hear this,It will be very raw for you just now.

Thinking of you, take care of yourself.

I'm so very, very sorry to read this. Take care - and so many people here who understand xx