annsixty surely your husband should be getting at least the lower level of Attendance Allowance. I know it is easier for me because I claim for my mum and somehow that feel's less of a reflection on me although, given the choice, mum would not claim. I'm afraid I just don't explain too much.
If you decide to claim do contact someone like Age UK as they will often know better what information the decision makers are looking for, they will often visit to help you fill the form in and often tell you about other things that are available. An it is nice to chat on a normal adult basis .
As you have seen some benefits are "gateways" to others and they are all designed to help with the care your husband needs.
Is it me or am I getting mixed messages
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