Tipping Point

I'm so sorry, Granny23, this must have been so distressing for you. Life can be very hard sometimes.

Granny23 i am sorry your dh has this cruel disease. It is very hard. Take care of yourself. Being a carer is mentally and physically exhausting and can be lonely work. Do take care of yourself and try to factor in a break now and again.
Sending you good wishes.

A landmark in the progress of the disease - and one that you must have been dreading, however much you knew it might happen. How very difficult for you. It is usually at night or in the evenings when these things happen - brain slowing down for the night.

I am thinking of you.

Sending commiserations to you too granny 23 and anybody in a similar position. This must be heartbreaking for you, but is there any consolation in hoping that he is unaware of the confusion?
I think your reasoning that he was overtired (possibly even half asleep) and the disruption of his normal routine sounds entirely plausible. But nevertheless

granny23 this is so upsetting for you. I think, like others, that he saw you as the person caring for him and his brain could only compute that as being his mum. I'm so sorry you're having to live through this terrible condition with your DH. ((hugs)) and for you both.

Oh Granny23, that must have been awful for you. Christmas, with all the changes in routine it brings, is often the trigger for a sudden change in people who are living with dementia. Doesn't make it any better for the rest of us though. I know it's difficult (been there with my parents and now as an Alzheimer's Society volunteer) but try to draw strength from the fact that he seems to be content.
I do feel for you, wish I could say something to really help, but can only say that I, along with others here, understand and to send you a big hug.

Granny23 many commiserations to you.
Your H has deteriorated so much faster than mine, his confusion is escalating but not like that.
He has got up and dressed afew times in the middle of the night and often thinks our GD who he has always adored lives with us.
He will remark that she is having a good sleep or a lie in.
I feel so much for you, it is a huge downward turn, strangely the men I know of who have vascular dementia ( my H has Alzheimer's) have all thought that their wives were their mothers.
So very sad to see.

Very sorry to hear this granny23. It's a sad stage in life. Very best wishes to you and good luck in the new year.

I hope I've remembered correctly that your DH has dementia, G23. If not, I apologise!

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If I've got the link correct this is a very good illustration of how the brain works in dementia.

I think he would be imagining you were his mum too. He is probably thinking of himself at a much younger age, you are older and looking after him - therefore you must be his mum.

Not nice for you though!

My mil in her last couple of years thought I was her sister and that my hubby , her son , was her husband.
It's normal but still upsetting as it's confirmation that they are not the person they once were but try not to take it personally. It's not his fault it is the illness.
It Is upsetting though when these things happen.

How upsetting. Im so sorry.
Maybe he recognised you as the person who is taking care of him and this then translated into his mother, his carer in his early years?
In his last stages my husband sometimes thought I was his secretary. I think because I was organising everything.

(((hugs)))