You have every right to feel overwhelmed. We don't choose these situations, they happen to us. DH was diagnosed with PD ten years ago, and at the end of last year, with Parkinson,s dementia. The psychotic episodes became so severe that he was also physically aggressive, and extremely deluded. It came to a head when he disappeared, found by the police, and hospitalised. To cut a long story short, he is in a nursing home, but is a lot calmer, I surmise due to a change in medication. I am just as miserable with him there as I was when he was at home, for different reasons. The nursing home is fine, but I still find that it shocks me daily that he's there, that this whole situation arose and I can't really move on. I also have an adult 'child' at home who has learning difficulties, and was quite traumatised by the goings on at home. I am sorely tempted to have DH back home on his good days, but then I remind myself of how awful it was. Also, the change in medication has lessened his mobility, meaning that he can rarely move around unaided, due to weakness and falls. There's also the difficulty of getting support at home. All professional advice is to leave things as they are, but these people have no personal investment. I also worry that within a couple of weeks, I might realise what a mistake it was, but then not get the required help. It's such a dilemma, and making me ill. Sorry for my rant, but this post made me want to 'get it out'.