My 83 year old mum had a stroke back in November, she is now in a care home and apart from the disablement left from the stroke (poor communication and right side weakness) she is fit and well.
She desperately wants out from the care home, apparently the company is lovely but not quite the stimulating repartee she likes!
Whilst mum is relatively well off if she stays in the care home all her money will be gone in 4.5 years and that is really not where she wants to be anyway.
Home is a first floor flat and as she is wheel chair bound that is not really an option.
I want to give her back some of her former independence whilst preserving her finances (the women in our family live well into their 90's).
What I really want to avoid is:
1) If she stays in the care home and her money runs out the council moving her elsewhere.
2) If she moves in with me I'm expected to do the bulk of the care (or night time at the very least) which I can't because I work full time.
3) I/she sells her flat and buys a bungalow and gets a live in care package (she needs around the clock care due to incontinence issues) but what happens when her money runs out?
I am talking to adult social care but they won't give me a straight answer and it's impossible to make a long term decision without knowing what will happen when the money has gone, which inevitably it will as her care needs are substantial.
Can anyone help??? Please!
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