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Moving an adult with a severe learning disability to a new placement - any advice?

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Kate54 Sat 14-Nov-20 12:05:34

After a couple of years of dithering and with the full backing of our local authority, we have finally made the decision to move our adult son, who has severe learning disabilies, autism and challenging behaviour, to a new residential care home.
He has been at his current home for 10 years and, although attached to some of the staff there, for reasons too long to discuss here, we have explored all options and had to take the plunge.
The move will be, briefly we hope, traumatic for him and the next few months are going to be difficult for all of us.
Have any GNers been through this experience? All advice gratefully received?

sodapop Wed 23-Aug-23 12:55:53

I'm so sorry Kate54 what a tragedy for your son and for all of you.
I agree the whole industry needs an overhaul and more monitoring. The CQC are doing a poor job.
When Local Authorities ran services there was much more accountability and training for the staff etc. Now profit comes before everything.

My condolences to you at what must be such a difficult time. flowers

annsixty Wed 23-Aug-23 13:15:50

I don’t know what prompted me to read this thread today and admit I had no recollection of it or posting on it.
I just want to express very sincere condolences to you on what must have been a traumatic experience for you which seems to be ongoing.
You went through a terrible time after seemingly making the right decision.
I hope you get some answers which will help you deal with it.

Kate54 Wed 23-Aug-23 13:40:27

Thank you for those responses which are most appreciated. We are OK but there may be some unwelcome publicity which will stir up all the dread once more.

Primrose53 Wed 23-Aug-23 14:57:36

So sorry to read your update Kate54. I didn’t notice that your OP was a couple of years old.

May your son truly rest in peace now and that you are coping.

Dickens Wed 23-Aug-23 15:39:44

Oh Katie - so sorry to read your update. flowers

Aveline Wed 23-Aug-23 15:40:46

I'm very sorry to hear about what happened to your dear son. Life is so hard. I can only hope that good quality care of learning disabled people improves a lot - and soon. flowers

crazyH Wed 23-Aug-23 15:45:33

So sorry to hear about the sad demise of your son. flowers

Hithere Wed 23-Aug-23 15:50:13

So sorry for your loss

mrshat Wed 23-Aug-23 20:31:09

Kate54 I only read this whole post today and did not realise until your update that it was an old post. Please accept condolences on the death of your son and sympathy with the additional trauma of a police investigation and lack of full inquest. Keep strong and positive. It is so sad. flowers

Diddly Wed 23-Aug-23 20:32:43

Kate I am so very sorry for your son, you and all the family.

It is a very difficult path and you are constantly between a rock and a hard place.

Would you kindly PM the locations you son was please. It is so very difficult to find locations that meet needs. The location may be the best there is but not as you expect from the packaging.

Many thanks.

SueDonim Wed 23-Aug-23 21:03:26

I am so sorry, Kate54. flowers That must have been a terrible shock to you all.

NanaSeven7 Fri 08-May-26 23:15:04

Sending my condolences Xx
I have a 33yr old son with complex Learning Disabilities.