My mother, 90, has recently returned from hospital, im the only person to keep an eye on her.
She has refused help from anyone, shes on oxygen so is limited physically. Her condition is heart failure and recovering from pnewmonia. My problem is that as shes mentally ok, everyone has washed there hands of her. I tried social services but shes nit entitled to any care.
When she left hospital, i wasnt asked if i could look after her, i wasnt given an6 instructions. Now after over a week, shes had one doctors phone call, call from social services to say they cant help her.
I live nearby but cant cope with her housework, im exhausted doing my own. Im off on sick leave with this super cold so i can visit but i wear my mask so she says she cant lipread. She has expensive hearing aids but refuses to wear them.
My visits always degenerate into a row as she wont try anything to help herself, she makes snack meals, says if i bring anymore food she wont eat it. Occasionally she cooks veg in her microwave but not allowed to fry as shes on oxygen.
The negativity just drains my energy before i get in the door knowing everything i do or say is wrong. I know it must he frustrating after being active. The other worry is that no one checks her heart or other medical signs, she has high bp. Im just left with battling every day. Any advice
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