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Really sad subject.

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dizzyblonde Tue 27-Mar-12 15:05:00

Have hesitated about starting this thread but I have received good support in the past from Gransnetters so here goes.
Over the weekend I attended my first ever paediatric arrest. As is often the case, it did not have a good outcome and the baby died although we did all we could as did the hospital staff.
Even though we had a debrief and a chat with the officer in charge I still feel devastated by it and so sad for the parents leaving the hospital with empty arms.
I felt helpless and useless and keep remembering the feel of the little ones chest under my fingers as I did compressions and the Mother's anguished face and the tear stained faces of the nurses afterwards.I feel that in the face of the unimaginable grief that a family have suffered I have no right to be so upset but I am.
I'm not expressing myself well I know but just needed to vent a little.

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glammanana Tue 27-Mar-12 22:30:01

dizzy my thoughts are with you doing such a worthwhile job never knowing what the day will bring you and your fellow medic's.flowers

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yogagran Tue 27-Mar-12 23:06:43

Bless you dizzy for doing such a wonderful job and for being so caring.

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JessM Wed 28-Mar-12 07:37:34

Yes dizzy a really good cry can really help sometimes can't it. You won't forget but it will settle in time. My MIL still remembers one of her child patients dying when she was a nurse in the 1950s. You might find it helps to sit down and handwrite the whole story out. I know that you will ultimately gain confidence from this - when the chips were down your training kicked in.

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Tosh Wed 28-Mar-12 09:15:21

Your post is very touching and I'm sure we all read it through teary eyes...yes I think we forget how emotional these tragic events are for emergency services and medics.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for all you do with compassion and proffessionalism. flowers
My Son in law is a paramedic and he (as a father of 4) says he can deal with anything ....but it's always the children that affect them the most.
A few months ago SIL was called out to a desperately ill 3yr girl. The crew battled to save her life ...then SIL looked at her notes to discover she was born the same day as his sadly, stillborn baby girl and he found it even more difficult to 'keep it together'!!

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supernana Fri 06-Apr-12 12:47:40

dizzy The better the person, the harder it is to deal with another's pain. Empathy is what makes you special. You did your very best. I'm sending tender [hugs]

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granbunny Sat 07-Apr-12 07:48:50

hugs, dizzy. the 'caring' of hospital staff is very important to families.

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dizzyblonde Sun 08-Apr-12 22:30:16

You have all been so kind flowers

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