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absent ((((hugs)))).

my sincere sympathy and hugs too absentgrana

I can feel empathy lost my f i law nearly 4 years ago just before xmas and he was like a Dad to me.

As the others say you will have your memories, I am not sure what I believe, I did go see a spiritualist who came up with messages from my late f i law and my Mother, stuff no one could have known,
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very scarey really!!
sorry this was just to send you sincere sympathy!

absent I am sorry to hear about your loss.

Strangely I don't see myself as a believer in Angels, a God or an afterlife, which sounds a bit vague I know. Perhaps unconciously I am hedging my bets!
My parents died 10 years ago within 2 months of each other. Dad first at 86 and then Mum at 82.

Some time after their deaths I dreamt that a sort of angel figure complete with white gown, came floating down from heaven, hand in hand with my mum.I asked my Mum if she had met up with my Dad yet! I cant remember getting a reply. In the dream I somehow knew that "the white angel" figure was my Mum's baby sister who died when my Mum was about 2yrs old.

This was the oddest experience I have had. Like most of my generation I have been steeped in heaven and angel imagery, but I have never had an experience or dream like that before or since!

When your MIL has her funeral, write down all the good memories and funny anecdotes you remember about her. If you can manage it read it yourself, or get whoever takes the service to do so.

It really helps to bring back good memories and funny anecdotes to relatives and old friends, and in particular to let people, who only knew that person in declining physical and mental health, just what they were like when they were fit and well. They can then remember, talk and laugh together about the happy times.

I wish now I had done this for my MIL whose funeral seemed rather flat.

Absent your post has taken me right back to when my father died. Although he was in relatively good health he had told me a few weeks previously that he had had enough of living alone (3 years since my DM had died) and felt that the time had come to join his beloved wife and 'dance with her in Heaven'. My parents were wonderful natural ballroom dancers, so good that people would leave the dance floor to them and watch from the side. Latterly with M's arthritis and D's bad back they could only manage a turn or two round their living room.

Like you I do not believe in an afterlife, but my parent's did. I was heartbroken to let my DF go, but much comforted that he died happy and hopeful and would not wake up to be disappointed.

absent I'm so sorry for your loss. You will be in my thoughts today