Posting on the threads

absent

That's b----y rude if you don't mean it as a joke.

Steady there.

Does it matter, absent ? I don't think space is at a premium.

I approve of trying to post on a lot of threads at once, anyway.

I remember what fun it was competing with Jingle over a year ago for the how-many-threads-can-you-be-the-last-on-in-the-shortest-time trophy. Several others joined in and had a good time. It got quite manic, no sooner had you posted somewhere than someone else trumped you. A lot of people were confused, but WTH. It did not last very long.

I was wondering what 'the stuff' was that was cluttered.

I was only thinking Oldie Borum is probably the safest place for me, a newbie, and I will comment on everything to see how it feels. (shallow end)

(There was a suggestion that Gransnet did have hundreds of threads for me to be on)

Thank you for positivity directed my way

Don't go! I put a question on Lil's Bar especially for you!

It's just a straightforward comment, not a joke. Of course Daman or anyone else can read old threads and comment if they want to. I just thought that maybe Daman mistakenly believed that once he'd opened a thread, he had to post a comment and so was putting things like "Don't worry, it's just me" which even you POGS must admit is pretty pointless. I was trying to be helpful, not bloody rude.

Daman I'm sorry if were offended. That was not my intention.

What on earth is this all about? If someone wants to comment on an old thread, can't they? Fancy having a row on this forum. Or have I got completely the wrong end of the stick. If so 'sorry it's just me'

dorsetpent I have just explained that I was trying to be helpful. I wasn't criticising Daman or suggesting he shouldn't post when he wants to. I just thought that he had misunderstood how the threads work. I am not having a row with anyone.

Who are you absentgran ? The thread police? I'm new on here too but I have read rather a lot of bossy and patronising comments from you already. I've not said anything before but to start a thread for the sole purpose of, well exactly what please?

I don't mean to sound rude myself and apologise if I have but fair comment I think.

absent I agree with you. If stuff is posted on old threads the newer ones start to disappear and, anyway, I'm easily I was trying to be subtle in my earlier post about being taken over but was too subtle I think.

Obviously, if it adds to the thread, it's fine. No-one should take offence, please and anything else that might help!

SeanMc I am someone who was trying to be helpful to a newish member who I thought, perhaps mistakenly, didn't realise that it is not compulsory to post on a thread once he had opened it. In other words, he could shut the thread without commenting if he wanted to. When I was new to Gransnet, I hadn't realised that I could open and shut threads willy nilly and no one was any the wiser about what I had looked at and then chosen to ignore. I was not telling him that he shouldn't post, just that he didn't have to. This is the third time I have explained this morning and I don't know how to explain it any more clearly.

I find your comment unnecessary and rather impolite.

I woz 'ere.

Apologies Cari. As I have explained (ad nauseum) I was trying to be helpful and didn't think too sensibly about the the title.

But you support my entitlement to make these observations????

SeanMc Do you mean do I support your claim to be entitled to call me bossy and patronising? Hardly.

Look I'm not getting into an argument I know I can't win. I've got sisters, four of them, I know when to retire. I'm off out absentgran but if you're around later tonight I'll be at Lil's bar and I'll stand you a pint to make up if I've hurt your feelings.

SeanMc That's a very fine offer. However, I don't frequent Lil's bar so I'll take a rain check.

sean give us a break please. If you feel someone is getting at you, then tell em or if you feel it is offensive or bullying, complain to GN as per the guidelines of this forum. You appear to be trying to start another non-specific "I'm just sticking up for unspecified others" argument.

Permission to copy that post for future use, jess?

I'd take the name out, obviously.

Thank you to the positivists, and I will work with the help given by the negativists.
All is practice - as a Buddhist might say.

Clearly I have got out of the grumpy side of the bed today, but skimming through threads, there seem to be a lot of comments just for the sake of making one's mark. I am reminded of advice I have heard - which I may be paraphrasing:
It is better to remain silent and risk being taken for a fool, than to speak and leave the listener on no doubt.