horrendous row!!

Quite right jeni though I don't always find it easy to follow.

Apologies for my double post - but I must have meant it really seriously!!

jeni have a great time .I'll be thinking of you looking glamorous, charming the waiters and feasting on all that gorgeous food.
The worst thing about holidays is the packing panic.Hope it's all sorted .

celebgran

It's not worth to continue things. Just think of some threads on G.N. where people have lost loved ones or seperated and find being on their own hard to do.

As the saying goes 'You only hurt the ones you love', I think that is true and we all at times use people very dear to us as our 'whipping post' and regret it dearly.

Sorry celeb I got diverted from your thread.
Hope things are better between you and OH.
Could it be he feels neglected and sidelined by your attempts to contact GC?
He is certainly hurting too. Would taking a step back from your efforts at contact over Xmas help to heal your relationship.
Best wishes

oh how lovely of you all to give me such lovely responses!!

am happy to say we did make up and even went out with our friends that evening but we both still quite a bit fragile!!

I do understand he is hurting too, and we have lovely son we are going to for Xmas, he was a poppett and tried to calm me down on the phone.
sometimes I drive to the seaf front and indulge in a good weep!
This time may have been good idea!
can you believe that OH TROD in dog poo again yesterday poor chap, but this time we cleared up together I had been at hairdressers, cut and colour feel lots better now!
got my nephew who hardly ever see coming round this evenign with his wife.

Marelli you give me some hope, how sad your daugther does not see our OH BUT it has been 4 years for us and to see her mother in law in the house with our grand daughters one we never seen, really really hurt and upset me just when you think it cant get any worse.
on positive note I did see little Mollie YAY AND she saw me deliverthe pressies.
thanks again to all of you we working through it all, OH chose me a beautiful ankle chain on Wed (I had to try it on!) we had awful lunch out at wethers poons I know it cheapie but sometimes can be ok, however we still had nice day and chose some good books for when we can unwind!
Also he bought me gorgeous orchid y esterday while I was at hair dresserss and chose a new xmas light deco for the window old one went phut so he is making enormous effort to appologise. we must look out for each other!!
to all you lovely grannies xx

Jeni hope the cruise going fantastic, we had such busy day Monday that did not have time to read all these lovely posts.

My mumalways said dont let the sun go down on your wrath, we do sometimes sadly, I am still fragile but things lot better.

is just damn hard at Xmas and I realise we have far too much going for us to walk out on that.

That all sounds positive celeb - lovely to hear he's making an effort.

Things sound a good bit cheerier for you now celebgran . We can sometimes feel as if we're in an absolute pit of despair, then the light will break through and we can see our way again. Just having someone doing something nice for you is all it takes.

celebgran, your OH is making a huge effort and I am sure you are too. You have each other and that is so important. I know there is a big dark hole in your life, but I hope you will have as happy a Christmas as you can with the people who love and appreciate you. ((((hug)))).

It is so lovely when people can come back on and report some good news. Well done, Celebgran, it certainly sounds as if things are cheering up.

oh yes thanks girls, having little blip today Daughters godmother just texted they got card no message or letter (the one who she wrote to and asked her to write back in summer) that hurt we not even worth a card.

sat and wrote to her but doubt will post it, she must know without me saying how hurtful she is being not to mention cruel.

Still on bright note we had my nephew and his wife round for evening and what a lovely time we had, they are expecting in May and only live round corner so be great to be part of it.

We never saw my twin brothers 3 boys that much his wife (now divorced) was very anti social, but is great to see him now! His wife is from Slovakia they met while he was playing football how romantic!
She is stunning and speaks excellent English!
lovely evening, they even wrapped up bottle of our favourite wine (they could not have known) with xmas card bless them!!