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elegran thank you.

I have been here from the beginning and yes I feel know some of you more than others, yes I have meet a few of you but I also enjoy seeing the new faces, but it does take a little time for a rapport to develop as in life friendship takes time to develop.
I moved in with my DD a while ago and didn't know anyone in the area but started at the Toddler groups with my DGD and at first it was hard and not because I was made to feel unwelcome but I was a stranger among people who had known each other sometimes for years, but gradually I made some good friends, but it does not happen in an instance.
On GN we all come from different backgrounds and have different opinions but that's all to the good of GN, and at the end of the day its ourselves who will loose out on the friendship, support, laughter and sister hood if we cant get over this repeated cry about Cliques.

Because hello we dont get to see you very often over here, but I can whole heartedly agree with you about Mumsnet I don't visit very often now, but I have been amazed many times of the support given to each other.

Can I cross the border/divide and say there is much in what elegran says?

Absolutely Kali - there isn't a divide unless people decide there should be one.

I am feeling happy. Thanks to you lot

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There is no divide, Kali People are much the same wherever they are. Quote from The Jungle Book - "We be of one blood, you and I"

I'll tell again a story I heard about a house for sale in a village somewhere. The first couple to view it liked it, but went for a walk through the streets to see the rest of the village. They got talking to an old chap working in his front garden, and asked, "What are the people like here?"

He didn't answer directly but asked, "What are they like where you come from?" "Oh, they are a lot of selfish, stuck-up, lazy so-and-sos, if you suggest ways they could be doing things better, they just snarl at you. We'll be glad to move"

"Well," he said, "In that case you'll find them much the same here"

The next viewers did the same, met the same man, asked the same question. Same response, "What are they like where you live?" "Oh they are a lovely bunch, very helpful and so friendly. We all look out for each other. We'll be sorry to move."

"Well," he said, "In that case you will find them much the same here."

I can't add anything to Elegran's excellent post - so I won't. Thanks Elegran.

Thank you Elegran A lovely story and so true.

Lovely . Thanks Kali and Smol.

glassortwo - what with my Mumsnet, Facebook and Twitter habits, never mind my family who very unreasonably seem to want some of my time, I just don't have the time for another addiction!

The debate about newbies vs regulars rages on any forum I have ever been on, by the way. And it's a constant refrain on Mumsnet.

I belong to several other forums one I've been a member of for a long time its just a forum for older woman but we have members of varying ages and backgrounds. Its very small and most of the other members are in the US I've found it very interesting getting to know these ladies over the pond we are poles apart on many things but its been interesting to say the least we've certainly had our moments over the years mostly when new members have come along . I also belong to some Arthritis forums I had a look at Mumsnet but didn't join. Money Supermarket has some useful threads too.

Tanith , what is the American Website ?

Also , is it hard to get into ?

Cheers .

Other forums also tend to look back with nostalgia at a time when that particular forum was better. Forums are just the sum total of the people who frequent them and it's up to us to make sure it's a good place to be. Given that it's a far more interesting place with far more interesting conversations with interesting people than I get in 'the real world' it can't be bad [mind you, I don't get out much].

I've been away all afternoon hospital visiting, and have just logged on again.
I have nothing to add, only to thank Elegran for her eloquent post. You said it all, Elegran . Over the time I have been a member on Gransnet, I have received a tremendous amount of support. The terrible problem I was having to deal with well over a year ago was life-shattering - to me, anyway. Newer members won't have seen this due to the fact they are new.
We all have to start somewhere, and along the way we get to know some members better than others. When I asked how it was that it appeared that GN seemed to be 'cliquey', it was asked in a friendly way - I was hoping that was obvious. No-one has to justify what they feel or felt. I asked because if it was possible to make it not cliquey then we would surely strive to ensure that.
Sometimes, as has been said before, a post may come across as being confrontational or aggressive, when this was never meant to be. So I'm adding a or two, hoping that no-one has been offended.

Erm...Tegan I thought you'd put a link on here a little while ago for a forum (of mostly American women??) but when I came to look for it again, it's gone! or perhaps it never existed? Oh My! Has my imagination come to seeing links that don't exist Please tell me I've not lost me last marble and are reading things that never existed!

I go on an American film forum called chasingthefrog; maybe that's what you're thinking of? Mind you, not many people go on that now [same with my racing forums]. It's all Twitter these days [which I don't understand ].

Before I go...a for Jings

T'wast chasingthefrog...Perhaps I HAVE finally lost the plot...unless it was someone else? Grrrrump - I don't know (I'm now shuffling off into the sunset - with my nice new fluffy slippers and a mug of cocoa

A goose with fluffy slippers?

And a mug of cocoa! Very Beatrix Potter...

jeni - yep - shaped like dogs, feels cruel shoving me feet inside 'em!

This is my first forum so i,m not quite sure what to expect. After reading some of the comments I have to say it,s put me off joining in things a little in case I say the wrong thing! So if I do, please be gentle with me! [Smile]

kissygrandma , welcome. How could we be mean to a gran with a forum name like yours?