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Anne58 Sat 02-Feb-13 20:59:38

Hello all,
I know that this has come up before, and I think that we can all appreciate that this form of communication has no face or voice, therefore it can sometimes be difficult to get the "feel" of what someone is trying to say or the tone in which it is meant.

Yes, we have emoticons that we can use, but even then the way a post is presented and received can still be open to interpretation. I have seen new members saying that they have decided to leave after "seeing" the way that some threads evolve, and they have been advised to stick around, maybe lurk for a while, before actually leaving.

Please can I ask all of you to do a little experiment? Try saying these words "It's quite nice". A very simple 3 word phrase.

Perhaps imagine someone showing you something, a knitting pattern, a photo, a fabric sample. Maybe a better example would be that you have gone with a friend to help her to choose an outfit for an occasion.

She picks up something that you feel a bit doubtful about, goes to try it on and comes out. It looks better than you thought it would "It's quite nice!"

She chooses something to try that isn't quite the thing, but you don't want to be too hard "It's quite nice"

Same three words, totally different inflection.

Perhaps I'm stating the bleedin' obvious, as the saying goes!

I'll get my coat!

Movedalot Sun 03-Feb-13 13:44:42

I still don't understand why one person would pretend to be two. confused Please would someone explain.

If they do, for whatever reason, is it fair to 'out' them? Just as when.if someone leaves and returns as someone else, is it fair to 'out' them? Surely they must have a reason?

absent Sun 03-Feb-13 14:01:16

Stansgran Look I can't be Greatnan, Bags and absent as has been suggested a number of times. I do have other things to do during my days. Also, it's a pretty rotten suggestion from Bags's and Greatnan's points of views. I think someone even suggested that JessM and I were the same person – an equally absurd notion. The only "other" person I have ever been on Gransnet was absentgrana before I resigned my membership, so it isn't difficult to recognise me now I have "unresigned".

To prove it, there is a picture of Bags and me, plus some other grannies on one or more of the Scottish granny's profiles. Bags is the attractive, neat-looking, small person; I am the long lanky one who resembles a man in drag.

GNHQ has explained a few times that they have arcane ways and means of preventing one person having two screen names at the same time. However, if someone resigns, they cannot use the same name if they rejoin. As a result, people's names do change even if they only add a different number to the end grin. Also, some people change their names because they don't want family members to recognise them or there has been some other problem. However, they still cannot use two names at the same time.

On a completely different subject, isn't it interesting how names that we would have considered horribly old-fashioned when our children were born have come back into fashion? I know a number of young Stanleys and Normans.

kittylester Sun 03-Feb-13 14:01:28

Stansgran I have found someone who thinks my posts are worth reading - thank you! smile I agree that some names can alike and that people changing their names can lead to confusion.

Gracesmum I hope the bit that was 'way off beam' didn't refer to my posts gringrin

gracesmum Sun 03-Feb-13 14:04:51

Don't be silly grin - oops am I allowed to say that? It was the confustication of bags/absent gally/gillybob etc
Your posts are always pearls of wisdom, as are mine of course!

kittylester Sun 03-Feb-13 14:10:24

gm grin wine

jeni Sun 03-Feb-13 14:40:53

The only way (speaking theoretically) I see it could be done is if you have two or more email addresses!

Movedalot Sun 03-Feb-13 15:00:44

But why would you do it? You could have 35 email addresses but what would be the point? Someone answer me please?

Elegran Sun 03-Feb-13 15:07:18

Useful for someone with a split personality? Or someone whose pearls of wisdom are being neglected and need a reply? You could have an argument with yourself, if no-one else will oblige.

You would need to be very organised to carry it off without making mistakes about who said what when.

annodomini Sun 03-Feb-13 15:12:52

Apparently I have three email addresses. One of them I didn't know about until today when I had a chat with a nice woman at Virgin Media. The third one is a special one for accessing my account.

annodomini Sun 03-Feb-13 15:13:27

But I am just one person on here. Honest!

jeni Sun 03-Feb-13 15:37:25

hmm think I'll get some more email addresses and try it.
I can then have some veryboring interesting stupid intelligent conversations smile

Ana Sun 03-Feb-13 15:45:40

I think you'd need separate computer addresses as well. GMHQ can probably tell if all the e mail addresses are coming from the same one.

jeni Sun 03-Feb-13 15:52:07

Easy enough. Use the work one or next doors or dd's .
Hey I could be lots of people and have a really good row discussion with myself!grin

kittylester Sun 03-Feb-13 15:54:58

I'd need to run up to Dh's and then back down to mine - hmmm - might lose weight that way. grin

jeni Sun 03-Feb-13 15:58:31

See! That's one brilliant idea of mine.
Dual purpose posting!

annodomini Sun 03-Feb-13 16:06:06

Do internet cafés still exist or is everyone using phones and tablets nowadays?

merlotgran Sun 03-Feb-13 16:14:27

A few years ago a friend of mine belonged to the BBC Casualty forum which used to get very heated. I called in one day to find her sitting at her PC which was covered in yellow Post It notes reminding her who she was and what she'd just said. Apparently she used three e-mail addresses. I found it hilarious. grin

I have enough problems trying to remember who I am without trying to be someone else as well. confused

Movedalot Sun 03-Feb-13 16:16:58

jeni you might even get a sensible answer grin

We have 4 computers so I could have 4 identities, but I have a life instead even though I am lying down as the meds make me very woozy. [druggedupandstupidemoticon]

jeni Sun 03-Feb-13 16:18:51

That's because you went gallivanting last night!

Movedalot Sun 03-Feb-13 16:22:22

No its not Jeni I was OK before I took only one of these co-co thingys but I was in pain. Now no pian and not much of anything else eithe. I feel like you do just as the aneasthetic is starting to work.

jeni Sun 03-Feb-13 16:23:58

Oh! That lovely woozy floaty feeling!

Movedalot Sun 03-Feb-13 16:26:25

It is jsut that Jeni with the same sort of helplessness

Bags Sun 03-Feb-13 16:27:31

Wish my co-cos did that to me. Have taken (quick check in pocket) four of today's eight and am still in pain hmm. Time for the next two, methinks.

Is your back improving, moved?

Movedalot Sun 03-Feb-13 16:36:10

It only takes one to knock me out Bags, although the pharmacist said my dose is bigger than usual. No, its still getting worse! sad Sorry that you too are suffering. Doesn't help to know you are not alone does it?

kittylester Sun 03-Feb-13 16:39:25

I love how this thread has morphed into talking about taking co-co thingies instead of offence smile