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Renewing vows

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ginny Mon 04-Feb-13 08:48:08

Lately I have heard of quite a few couples who are renewing their vows. Some quietly and some with big parties and celebrations. Personally I can't see a reason to do this. If you make a vow and have kept it, why would you need to renew and if you haven't kept it what's the point in making the same vow again ? Don't want to upset anyone who has done this but am interested in the reasons.

bluebell Tue 05-Feb-13 16:41:28

Oh Bags - that was my mum's legacy to me! And I've tried to do the same with my DD who has some very hard health issues to live with but remains confident, calm, loving and thoughful. Forgive burst of maternal pride but she does have a lot to live with but she's always there for others (probably because of that)

Bags Tue 05-Feb-13 16:43:47

bluebell flowers for both of you smile

ninathenana Tue 05-Feb-13 19:02:43

When DD was planning her wedding. I was a member of a wedding forum. One of the ladies was planning her blessing. It was more lavish than some of the young brides plans. Full white dress 5 bridesmaids etc. The point ???
Friend had blessing for 10yr anniversary. Normal smart clothes and a few family and friends back to theirs.
If I ever considered it (can't see it happening) that would be the way for me.

Ariadne Tue 05-Feb-13 19:26:31

I think that I'd like us to remember what we promised; we do. But, if people want a part. Go for it! We have some great parties for occasions that matter to us, and other people do the same. Bless us all!

Butty Tue 05-Feb-13 19:34:02

B and Absent - I couldn't think of anything I have wanted more.
How fortunate you both were, and are.

Bags Tue 05-Feb-13 19:38:53

Indeed we are, butty. I wish it were shareable flowers

Galen Tue 05-Feb-13 20:39:53

I fell on our boat and had to have new wedding ring.
We arranged a simple ceremony with just us and the rector who blessed the ring.we also renewed our vows.
At that time my husband had had a kidney transplant and we were also saying Thankyou for the extra years together this bought us!

I didn't cry at my real wedding, but I did at this very simple ceremony!

absent Tue 05-Feb-13 20:41:22

Galen That seems right somehow. flowers

Forzanonna Tue 05-Feb-13 20:59:55

We renewed our vows after 25 years, just quietly in church, where we attend, and then at home with some friends and family. Just because it seemed a good way to celebrate our silver wedding - so many don't make it this far these days - at least so it seems. We've just had our 35th anniversary - and had a take away and a bottle of wine!! Might party for our Ruby but no more vows - at least not till the 50 - God willing!!

Mishap Wed 06-Feb-13 11:37:15

Not my kind of thing really - we made our vows and have stuck with them for 42 years. They will not mean any more by saying them all over again.

We had a lovely party for our 40th with family and close neighbours and friends, when we all went for a walk in a wood and then had a meal in a barn with a classical guitarist quietly playing live for us. I made a very short speech (OH has PD and this is difficult for him) to thank all the people there for their kindness over the years and that was that! Very nice.

absent Wed 06-Feb-13 11:54:29

Sounds very civilised and enjoyable Mishap.

HildaW Wed 06-Feb-13 12:03:01

Although we have not been down the 'Renewing Vows' route we did, on our Silver wedding buy me a new wedding ring. We had had a bit of a rough patch a few years ago and although nothing much actually happened we just sort of stopped really communicating. Then we went through hell caring for a relative and having come through the worst went and splurged on a lovely new wedding ring for me as a way of marking our survival. No ceremony no great whoo ha.....just a kind of acknowledgement that we were now on a new page.

I think its horses for courses - just as I see some of the things younger brides go in for as a bit of a waste of time and money. Its personal choice and if you want to mark keeping together with a party and some carefully chosen words, then go for it. I'll save my pennies for another Cruise!

Galen Wed 06-Feb-13 13:03:29

A woman afterme own heart!smilesunshinewineflowers