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Good Friday Etiquette

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Gally Fri 29-Mar-13 06:41:05

SIL is preparing a paella for tonight's dinner. He (?) and his parents are adhering to the fish only on Good Friday rule which seems to be de riguer here in Oz whether you are a Believer, or not. The only shops open today are Bakers and Fish Merchants which are going like a fair. DD hates fish so is surreptitiously chucking in some illegal chicken bits and the kids are to have fish fingers [yuk emoticon]. I will be happy with anything so long as there is plenty of wine. I would have thought that would be banned too, but apparently not! wink

absent Fri 29-Mar-13 06:44:38

They had wine at the Last Supper so no reason to ban it on Good Friday. I don't think they had paella but none of the Gospels gives the menu, only mentioning bread.

JessM Fri 29-Mar-13 06:59:36

grin Absent - the fish thing is kind of symbolic I always thought. Certainly not biblical.

MiceElf Fri 29-Mar-13 07:42:36

The last supper, which was the Thursday meal, was the Passover meal. No fish, but lamb, bitter herbs, unleavened bread and so on, all with deeply symbolic meanings to remind the Jewish people of their exile and passage to the promised land. Good Friday is the commemoration of the crucifixion and the tradition of the church (which still obtains) is one of fasting and abstinence. In continental Europe salt fish is often served, but the point is that it should be day of prayer and contemplation and no self indulgence.

Greatnan Fri 29-Mar-13 08:29:01

The Catholic priests I used to know were mainly fond of a tipple. The first miracle of Jesus was turning the water into wine at the wedding at Cana. I could have done with him at my daughters' weddings!

gillybob Fri 29-Mar-13 09:02:21

Nothing wrong with fish fingers Gally . Spread with tomato ketchup (Heinz of course) delicious nursery dinner ! smile

glassortwo Fri 29-Mar-13 09:25:01

When we were younger the no meat on Good Friday was ridgedly stuck to, but people seem much more relaxed over it now.
But I only have fish on Good Friday and no I am not religious but I suppose
the childhood rules are more deeply imbedded than I thought.

Soupy Fri 29-Mar-13 09:45:40

I'm making fish pie tonight as I was brought up to have fish on Good Friday.

The fish pie comes with wine of course!

j08 Fri 29-Mar-13 09:46:20

It isn't "ettiquette". It's a requirement of the Catholic Church which a lot of non-catholics just happen to follow. Jesus sacrificed his flesh on Good Friday so abstinence from eating meat is the norm.

For years when the children were small we all had fish fingers, chips and baked beans at midday. Now we still do. Family custom. (love fish fingers)

j08 Fri 29-Mar-13 09:48:09

Re wine. You have to remember that wine in those days was a lot thinner and les alcoholic than it is now! That's why they could swig so much.

feetlebaum Fri 29-Mar-13 09:49:37

I thought the fish on Fridays thing was obsolete, like limbo?

j08 Fri 29-Mar-13 09:52:21


Greatnan Fri 29-Mar-13 09:52:34

I think many people adhere to the letter and not to the spirit of the rule - the original idea was surely to make some kind of sacrifice by not indulging in meat, but replacing it with fish, which is often more expensive, seems a bit of a cop-out to me.

j08 Fri 29-Mar-13 09:53:26

Actually, I don't think it is for a lot of people.

j08 Fri 29-Mar-13 09:54:07

Mind you, we always have fish on fridays anyway. We just go a bit down market on Good Friday.

Mamie Fri 29-Mar-13 09:54:20

Here in France it is not even a bank holiday. Work as normal. We forgot to make hot cross buns (i normally take them round the village), so will have to do it Sunday. As it isn't a tradition here no one will know the difference.

Movedalot Fri 29-Mar-13 10:03:38

Mamie it is not a bank holiday here either but is usally a day off. A technical difference only as far as I can see.

Sook Fri 29-Mar-13 10:07:37

Good Friday always meant Fish and Chips from one of our two excellent local chippies. As a child it was my job to go and order them and wait while they were cooked. While I was waiting I would be given a small cone of paper with a few steaming hot chips to eat whilst my order was cooked.

I am not religious but I always abstain from eating meat on this day. For our evening meal we are having baked salmon with fresh veggies.

absent Fri 29-Mar-13 10:09:15

As we eat fish three or four times a week in any case, we might well eat fish this evening too. I haven't given it any thought yet – I am still digesting breakfast.

Bags Fri 29-Mar-13 10:13:03

We're having roast chicken.

whenim64 Fri 29-Mar-13 10:14:03

Moved I always thought Good Friday was a bank holiday? Just Googled and it lists today as such. Are you outside Engand?

Mamie Fri 29-Mar-13 10:14:21

Yes Movedalot, I can remember OH having to work on Good Friday when he was with an American owned company, because it wasn't a holiday.
We are having Game Pudding to use up pack of game and some suet (both from a trip to the UK). Will probably add a dash of port and some quince jelly. We are working on major building projects in the garden all day and it is fine but freeeezing cold.

Greatnan Fri 29-Mar-13 10:34:52

The UK used to have very few bank holidays but three were added a few years ago. These apply to the whole of the UK and there are additional days in the 'fringe' nations: New Year's Day, Good Friday, Easter Monday, May bank holiday, Late Spring Bank Holiday, August Bank Holiday, Christmas Day, Boxing Day.
I counted 13 for France, including today. (Courtesy of google).

Movedalot Fri 29-Mar-13 10:49:08

I think the difference is between public holidays and bank holidays. I remember when car parks were free on BHs and people got ticketed on Good Friday because it wasn't a BH.

Mamie Fri 29-Mar-13 10:52:14

Definitely not one today Greatnan, people are at work here. Monday is a holiday and the shops are shut.