Do you 'like' all your friends?

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I saw a friend in passing the other day that I used to see every day; we used to walk our dogs together and never ran out of things to talk about. She'd just come back from a walk with another friend who she still stays in touch with. We did drift apart as I started working longer hours and she had a few family problems, but I felt a pang of sadness when I saw her . [just wanted to say this in a sort of cathartic way; feel better now ].

went out with the "girls" last week and because I was driving I had just one glass of wine. The table had three bottles between the five of us but when the bill came two of my friends said that I should pay less as I had only had one drink. I must admit I was quite relieved as DP has been out of work for a few months so having to watch the pennies. We do usually just split the bill and I do not have a problem with that but we do have one friend who drinks more and tends to order more expensive things ( she and DH have lots of disposable income). After the bill was paid she said very pointedly "next time we come out can we just split the flipping (polite version!) bill!". I did feel embarrassed having to remind her about my current situation and to add insult to injury I was dropping them off so she had no taxi home to pay for!

seasider She doesn't sound like a 'friend' to me! Maybe you should have a chat with the other girls and let them know how insensitive and hurtful that attitude can be.

I've been there too and I stopped going out if I was watching the pennies, and I knew that the bill would be split.

Hi Ella . DP said I should tell her that we will spilt the bill as long as she only has one glass of wine too! ( she likes a drink!) She can be very direct and has upset a couple of the others with her remarks but she can also be very good hearted. One of the other girls was in quite a serious car accident (not her fault and she broke her ribs) and she told her she was part of the "claim culture" because she claimed against the other driver's insurance. Working long hours at the moment and do enjoy a few hours out so don't really want to give it up

Pity you couldn't have jokingly said 'it's ok I don't want a tip' when you dropped her off [but, if you're like me you wouldn't have been able to do it]. It's a horrid situation to be in. I've got a friend that has just retired and she has suggested a few things that we could do together, but I've had to point out that she is on a very good pension and, if I retire I will be watching the pennies [she does understand that]. It's a horrid situation to be in, seasider. This friend of yours sounds incredibly insensitive.

I don't really have a social circle. I'm rather a recluse. I know lots of people, but the only person (apart from you crowd) that I talk to is my next door neighbour. (Her, not the old git!)

I understand seasider, if you want to keep going, and I can only suggest that either you put away a small amount each week towards the outing, or just grit your teeth and pay up!

It's no fun being a bit skint!

Galen; that's how I am [and another reason why I'm so worried about retiring]. I love seeing and chatting to people at work but, when I go home I tend to shut the world out. It's very rare that I find someone that I feel totally comfortable with, but the friend I've mentioned above was one of those such people; from the minute we first met [our children finding themselves in the same class at school] she was a complete kindred spirit. Gransnet was/is a complete revelation to me and I've met/spoken to more people on here over the past couple of years whose company I enjoy than [probably] over the rest of my life .

Horrid situation seasider

Tegan I had a really close friend who knew all about me and vice versa [or so I thought]. I then discovered that she was having an affair with a married man and using me as her alibi! Apparently, I was having 'problems' and went away a lot so she came to look after my children [or so she said]. I missed the friend I thought I had for a long time

What annoyed me most is that this friend knows that DP has only had poorly paid temporary jobs or unemployment for the last two years but she almost made me have to spell out my financial situation. I must be good at picking friends because, as I have posted before, when I thought my ex-husband was having an affair I was confiding in my best friend. My "friend" reassured me I had nothing to worry about but I later found out that she was the other woman!

friends are hard to come by all my friends are great I cant stand snobs or braggers just a no go area

I suppose it comes down to the fact that no one is perfect! I do like all my friends (not that I have that many!) but some of them do have irritating habits. (Which of course I don't)

I can't stand "snobs or braggers" either John Wales. Someone I was very close to recenty re-married into money and quite literally changed her personality overnight. We used to meet up regularly but now I avoid her like the plague and make any excuse not to go out with her as all she talks about is her latest luxury holiday, her latest luxury car, her latest house move (luxury of course), the fact that she gave up work as now she doesn't need to...... blah blah bloody blah.