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kittylester Mon 16-Sept-13 07:17:54

And, if you do, can you recommend any or do they all end up as bad tempered battles for supremacy and the moral high ground? sad

Having been a member of gn since early on, I am really unhappy about the vitriol often unleashed on here. The odd spat is understandable but GN seems to have a large number of, mostly new posters, who delight in creating discord.

So, can anyone recommend any general forums like GN used to be.

thatbags Tue 17-Sept-13 15:23:37

You're very wise to keep away from that thread about the first snowfallin the Alps, anniebach. It's really contentious. Snow in the Alps in autumn! I ask you!

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thatbags Tue 17-Sept-13 15:24:27

Don't be taken in by Thatjaneainsworth!

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thatbags Tue 17-Sept-13 15:25:08

Ahoy, HQ! I need a Devil emoticon!

kittylester Tue 17-Sept-13 15:31:14

jane maybe I shouldn't have just said 'fear' but fear of being attacked. Sometimes, I would like to post on a contentious thread because I have something to say but, I don't like unnecessary confrontation, so I don't. I think Ariadne made that point.

It's a shame when people come on GN for a little down time and are just met with hassle, either directly or indirectly. My 'real' friends and I can either agree or agree to differ and remain friends but GN is much more confrontational than that. sad

thatbags Tue 17-Sept-13 15:50:30

Where's That Jingle with her sense of humour alert when you need her? grin

POGS Tue 17-Sept-13 15:52:40

I only belong to GN. I too was persuaded my daughter to try GN to try and get to grips with using a computer, still quite hopeless but getting there, certainly a slow learner.

GN can be comforting, heart warming but in a flash infuriating and annoying. That's why I have stuck with it, it's what makes it interesting and gives me the reason to continue using my brain and feel I have the opportunity to say what I think. Now sadly for you lot that means talking to a captive audience. smile.

We are all strong minded at times and I love to see empathy is given out on a regular basis and this off-sets the odd thread that gets reduced to a bish bash of negativity.

We all find in life those we wish to be friends with, those we find we would not want to share time with but the art is to 'give as good as you get' and accept that if you do dish it out expect to have to take it on the chin in return.

Ana Tue 17-Sept-13 15:54:06

Hello again POGS! smile

thatbags Tue 17-Sept-13 15:56:35

Well said, pogs, and hello again from me smile

janeainsworth Tue 17-Sept-13 15:59:46

Hi from me too POGS smile

Anniebach Tue 17-Sept-13 17:19:50

Janesworth, I didn't think a thread on it would or could be contentious, good grief if on the weather then no hope for mankind, no, I just used that as an example of avoiding threads one just knew one could disagree with any positive comment. I am a person who had a panic attack watching Dr Zhivargo and so had to leave the cinema . I learned to laugh at my little problem years ago

Greatnan Tue 17-Sept-13 17:30:08

I am not quite sure how anybody, however contentious they might wish to be, could find anything to disagree with in a simple statement of fact. I usually record the first snow of the year here in the Alps.

j08 Tue 17-Sept-13 17:57:06

SHE'S GOT AN EFFING SNOW PHOBIA.

That is why she (sorry. Anniebach) decided to avoid the snow thread.

Anniebach Tue 17-Sept-13 18:02:31

Wish to be Greatnan, I haven't read anyone stating they might wish to be contentious.

Do let me explain yes? If a group wish to chat about snow then why not, many love it, I made a lighthearted comment on my phobia, thought no more of it. Read the thread titles this morning, saw one on snow so ignored it. Later I brought it into a post as an example of how I choose what to read and what to ignore, that's it, end of, I could have chosen rats I suppose, creepy little things

If anyone loves rats then no offence meant and no wish to be or fear of being contentious

I can't put a smiley face so please accept I am mentally adding one

Greatnan Tue 17-Sept-13 18:03:03

I didn't say she should not have avoided it, I merely wondered how anybody could find anything to actually disagree with in a statement of fact. No need to shout or use bad language, Jingle. grin

Grannyeggs Tue 17-Sept-13 18:05:04

I am sticking to GN, I have been a bit of a lurker for a while, and I confess I don't read the threads that look as though they are descending into a slanging match. But I do feel that it would not be normal if we all agreed with each other and there are plenty of threads that are chat or good advice, humorous etc; there's something for everyone. I don't want to find another forum, most of the time I like this one. smile

gracesmum Tue 17-Sept-13 18:07:08

If I don't want to talk about something, I just don't. End of.
I am going round in circles wondering why anniebach feels it necessary to talk about why she does not want to talk about something. confused

Anniebach Tue 17-Sept-13 18:11:26

Not realy talk about gracesmum, just offering an explanation,

Greatnan Tue 17-Sept-13 18:24:35

Anniebach, you said: Now if one was of the nature that wanted disagreements one would be into that thread looking for posts to disagree on, I have ignored it, why bother to read a thread one knows one will disagree with . Unless one wanted to seek out disagreements I suppose

I still don't understand how anybody could have possibly found something to disagree with in a statement of fact.

j08 Tue 17-Sept-13 18:32:11

Ab was demonstrating how she would avoid threads which might turn out to be, for her, contentious.

Gottit?! hmm

j08 Tue 17-Sept-13 18:33:27

Any thread can turn contentious. Give this one another ten minutes. hmm

j08 Tue 17-Sept-13 18:33:44

wink !!!

Ana Tue 17-Sept-13 18:33:46

And if not contentious, as such, at least upsetting. To Anniebach.

Greatnan Tue 17-Sept-13 18:34:28

No, jingle, I don't get it. Nothing in the post could possibly be viewed as contentious.

Elegran Tue 17-Sept-13 18:56:00

I think it was only Jingle who saw a possibility of anything contentious and Ana who saw a possibility of it being upsetting. Anniebach just said that she avoided all mention of snow.

Day follows night and night follows day. Oh dear! I should not have said that. Some people are afraid of the dark, they might be upset at my mentioning night. Or zealous protectors of their peace of mind might attack me for being so insensitive in bringing night into the conversation!

petallus Tue 17-Sept-13 19:00:08

That is such a distortion of what anniebach said.