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thatbags Tue 24-Sep-13 14:58:28

Who else didn't know armpit hair is called pitmuff?

Who else is amazed that some people are so hung up about this stuff? (see mumsnet)

Who else rarely puts their armpits on display?

Who else's husband, boyfriend, partner, wotevva has never said a word about the beauty or otherwise of armpits?

Who else thinks young women who (I quote) "despise" underarm hair are bonkers and to be pitied for having such shallow lives?

Please, someone, tell me this stuff is completely and totally unimportant in the big scheme of things and that the entire 'problem' can be summed up with: if you go sleeveless you might want to shave under your arms; if you wear sleeves it hardly matters.

thatbags Tue 24-Sep-13 14:58:44


Elegran Tue 24-Sep-13 15:10:42

With you completely, thatbags. There are many things more important than whether or not our oxters are hairy or denuded. If you don't like the natural look, depilate or stop wearing clothes that show them.

I wonder whether the hairy look is "despised" because it reminds some people of pubic hair and therefore of how their sexy bits naturally look?

Aka Tue 24-Sep-13 15:15:57

What is natural? I've never had any.

annodomini Tue 24-Sep-13 15:23:02

Cannot believe that you have started a thread about underarm hair, Bags!

Ana Tue 24-Sep-13 15:33:24

'Pitmuffs' does sound as though it's assumed there's rather a lot of it! grin

I've only ever had sparse underarm hair and only bother to shave if off a couple of times in the summer if I'm wearing sleeveless tops. I suppose if you were very well-endowed it could lead to a perspiration odour problem - yes I know it's washable, but sometimes it must be easier to get rid and use deodorant (after washing, of course!)

Elegran Tue 24-Sep-13 15:50:58

Then for you natural is hairless, Aka. For most, at least some hair is natural.

It is really a matter of preference to be hairy or hairless, and making it a kind of moral issue by "despising" it seems sick. What is despicable? that is an adjective for a shameful action. Why be ashamed at growing hair where all most people have it? Should men be ashamed of "despicable" moustaches? Try telling that to Hercule Poirot.

gracesmum Tue 24-Sep-13 15:59:25

Than goodness I have given uo on sleeveless anyway since my arms hardly match up to Michelle Obama's in terms of muscle tone and shape!!

ninathenana Tue 24-Sep-13 16:01:44

I wouldn't use the word 'despicable' but I do think it's unsightly.

Was it Liz Hurley who was featured in the press for not shaving her 'pits'
Feel free to correct me smile

janthea Tue 24-Sep-13 16:11:50

Never heard the word before! Totally unimportant.

MiceElf Tue 24-Sep-13 16:17:44

Why don't men shave their underarms?

Ana Tue 24-Sep-13 16:18:33

I certainly remember the fuss about Julia Roberts showing hers when waving at some event or other - it was all over the media the next day!

vampirequeen Tue 24-Sep-13 16:36:18

What a wonderful word. Never heard it before but it's so apt.

I tend to shave mine because I prefer them that way but tbh I don't mind what people do. It's a matter of personal choice.

I wouldn't like my OH to shave his body hair as I quite like hairy men although that's another topic grin

Granny23 Tue 24-Sep-13 17:06:55

I think that armpits (or oxters) are not the most beautiful part of the body, being dark skinned and wrinkly and are, therefore, best covered up. I only bare mine for swimming but keep my arms down until safely in the water. I cannot understand why anyone, when glamorously dressed up, would want to flaunt their arm pits by waving their arms above their head. Completely destroys the 'perfect' image they have worked hard to create. Great tufts of straight dark hair is decidedly Yucky, whereas a little puff of blonde or ginger curls can be quite attractive and certainly looks better than stubble.

Again, each to their own. This is probably the only time in the last 40 years when I have given a moment's thought to armpits grin

PS: I realise that there is a similarly hairy, dark & wrinkly area elsewhere on the female body. I have never considered that to be beautiful either but know that, thankfully, most males and some women would disagree.

kittylester Tue 24-Sep-13 17:19:05

I don't think that I am a particularly sensitive soul and swear words have no effect on me but I find that word revolting. [yeuk]

Just thought you'd like to know that. grin

Personally, I've never been particularly hairy and now it's mostly all gone!

harrigran Tue 24-Sep-13 17:48:15

Some men do shave under their arms MiceElf, I know one or two.

petallus Tue 24-Sep-13 17:50:35

When displaying the armpit, it is only good manners and ladylike to make sure it is free of hair.

petallus Tue 24-Sep-13 17:50:43


thatbags Tue 24-Sep-13 17:58:11

It's even more ladylike and better good manners not to display it.

Ana Tue 24-Sep-13 18:34:02


Deedaa Tue 24-Sep-13 21:14:04

I just don't find it attractive, and I'm not that keen on it in men. It's not so bad if it's quite short and curly, but a man with long, straight wisps of hair is a real turn off.

vampirequeen Tue 24-Sep-13 21:25:06

Oooh no. Hairy men every time grin

thatbags Tue 24-Sep-13 22:19:53

Y'know, deedaa, I've tended to meet men fully dressed and got to like them before I knew a thing about their pitmuffs! I suppose you have to know about that first if.... mind boggle hmm wink

Aka Tue 24-Sep-13 22:23:20

Crikey, you lot are fussy! If he's still got a pulse he'll do for me! shock

Ana Tue 24-Sep-13 22:34:39

Aka! grin Not too fussy, then...