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If you think GN can get a little heated.....

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Greatnan Mon 07-Oct-13 16:30:09

.....you should read some of the expat forums. Most of the protagonists are men. The arguments are sometimes ridiculous. For example, one person says Britain is rubbish and life in France is perfect. Somebody else replies that their life in France has been disastrous and they can't wait to get back to Britain, which is wonderful. If I try mildly pointing out that both countries have their good and bad points, and you don't have to hate Britain to enjoy living in France, I get jumped on from both sides!
And the political arguments can get really vicious, with personal insults flying around.
I have fallen foul of one member who is an ex-policeman and gets very annoyed whenever I mention some news story about police corruption or incompetence, misogyny, homophobia or racism, even though I always point out that the majority of police officers are probably perfectly honest and fair. He always says the offences are only 'alleged' and goes very quiet when they are found to be true. As an ex-teacher, I just feel sad when stories appear about rogue teachers, but I don't take them as a personal insult. He also objects to my atheism and left-wing views. I have to enjoy that I quite enjoy jousting with him. If I couldn't take the heat, I would stay out of the kitchen! However, he has been responsible for several members leaving the forum, especially women.

I find Gransnet to be a haven of polite, kind, intelligent people, mostly women, with a scattering of some very nice men.

j08 Tue 08-Oct-13 22:13:50

I don't deliberately antagonise Galen.

Ana Tue 08-Oct-13 22:17:20

Are we all supposed to keep in line? With whom? confused

absent Tue 08-Oct-13 22:30:31

No Ana; nor has anyone ever suggested that we should. I know I have no sense of humour but I can usually recognise a joke when I see one. smile

Galen Tue 08-Oct-13 22:37:34

crackling rosie No, but sometimes think you post without thinking?
Hey! Just seen SNOW forecast for Scotland, hope our Bags is ok?

Ana Tue 08-Oct-13 22:39:41

Hmm...

Ana Tue 08-Oct-13 22:40:11

(that was to absent)

j08 Tue 08-Oct-13 22:42:56

Why would anyone put much thought into this?

Absent, it's not so much what you lack

glassortwo Tue 08-Oct-13 22:50:09

absent if you haven't got a sense of humour I will eat my hat.

whenim64 Tue 08-Oct-13 22:55:50

Sad that threads have to be de-railed by Jingle's need to cause strife. The same old, boring pattern again and again, ad infinitum. Have you ever tried to curb it, Jingle? Do you actually GET anything out of being a Gransnet member? You don't appear to sad

j08 Tue 08-Oct-13 22:58:07

What have I said now?! I simply complimented some posters on their sinfulness.

j08 Tue 08-Oct-13 22:59:01

Saintliness!!! sodding Fire!

Sel Tue 08-Oct-13 23:00:12

j08 is entertaining.

Ana Tue 08-Oct-13 23:02:08

That's so unfair, when. This thread hasn't been 'de-railed' at all - it's a continuing discussion about the content of the OP.

j08 Tue 08-Oct-13 23:02:16

Sash! Lara is probably waiting in the wings. I am under Special Measures.

Ana Tue 08-Oct-13 23:03:40

Well, if we lose you, jingl, there's no hope for GN. Blandness will rule...sad

j08 Tue 08-Oct-13 23:05:40

Keep telling 'em that. I should be alright then.

j08 Tue 08-Oct-13 23:06:05

moon

Aka Tue 08-Oct-13 23:06:07

I can't believe what I am reading. Oh how 'holier than thou' and such hypocrisy from some!

absent Tue 08-Oct-13 23:46:57

What? confused

Ceesnan Wed 09-Oct-13 06:38:54

You said, when, that you 'hate personal attacks, jibes and insults'. If this is the case then your comments to Jingle are hypocritical in the extreme!

Aka Wed 09-Oct-13 07:23:35

Exactly Ceesnan and I'm constantly subject to personal attacks by one particular person.

FlicketyB Wed 09-Oct-13 07:35:37

j08 I do not mind what people think of me, never have, but it is interesting now and again to know how others perceive you. It also helps if you want to put your views across in a manner that you hope will convince other people.

I will also jump to your defence. I like your waspish interventions, and that is a single sided compliment, no underside. Oysters need grit to make pearls and a good discussion needs someone prepared to lob in the odd comment aimed at stirring things up.

Greatnan Wed 09-Oct-13 07:54:43

'I find Gransnet to be a haven of polite, kind, intelligent people, mostly women, with a scattering of some very nice men.'
Worth repeating, I think! smile

LizG Wed 09-Oct-13 08:30:22

hmm not quite the way I would have described it Greatnan but certainly interesting smile

berdie Wed 09-Oct-13 08:37:54

I agree Greatnan, Iv'e been on GN for nearly a week now, and I find myself laughing along with some of the antics of members. I also think that this country should be run by you ladies, because as someone said, a lot of men are full of testosterone, and have no idea how to treat people. So lets all respect each others views, disagree sometimes, but lets not start slagging each other off.smile