Withany's bridge

Oh dear I seem to have attracted a few Barack-room lawyer's. I am told by my solicitor what the law says I can ask for in my set of circumstances, I have to trust her judgement, and experience in this, divorce cases are what she does day in and day out.

Now as to the fish... wet fish are in crates, breaded fish and so on come in packets and several packets in a cardboard box are classed as boxes to me, you would be surprised which shops sell what here, the owners are just trying to make a living.

I'm saddened to find that some GNs think my situation is amusing or a figment of my imagination, it is neither. It is about my life being torn apart.

This is the first forum I have posted on and the support and encouragement has been tremendous, for which I am grateful.

I am sorry you feel anybody finds your situation amusing I personally thought it was told as an amusing anecdote. Don't however dismiss those who comment as barrackroom lawyers. There is a wealth of professional expertise on GN as well as personal and professional experience. Questions are not necessarily challenges but may be a request to make your situation easier to understand . Sadly your situation however uniqube o you, is one that others have experience of. They re the people in whom you can confide.

Fat finger syndrome strikes again "unique to you"

I don't think your situation is amusing withany. I guess I can't imagine posting so much personal detail myself on an open forum. But then, we are all different.

I am glad you are finding some consolation here.

withany, please be aware that anyone in the world can read the posts on this site. No one on here finds your situation amusing - sometimes threads wander and get off the point, that's all. Good luck with all the choices you have to make.

Hang on a minute - WHO is jinglbellsfrocks????????????????

Exactly Soutra this is getting very ODD???????????????????????????

Oh come now, surely you know it's jingl re-incarnated. Again.

Anyway, I don't see any reason for hi-jacking this thread. Shall we all move along?

Sorry phoenix not trying to hijack - but I tried a pm and it was rejected as the name was not recognised.
Anyway as you say
revenons a nos moutons.......

Well here I am, I didn't realise my writing style was anecdotal... having never posted on a forum, or written anything that others can comment on so this has come as a surprise. I think it may be a compliment, I'm hoping so anyway.
The weather here was horrendous yesterday, gale force winds and lashing rain, I of course had booked for the new look hairdo kept appointment, pleased with my new look until I stepped out into the blooming wind and rain, managed to hold onto umbrella, Ive got one thats not supposed to blow inside out, made it back to the car. Started car up went to release handbrake and the wretched button thing that you depress fell apart in my hand. All that was left was the fixing post or whatever, anyway I couldn't depress the post to take the handbrake off. Luckily the garage I use was only about 500yds away. So made my way over to said garage, please bare in mind state of weather conditions and my new hairdo. Mechanic kindly went and got the car for me he had no trouble depressing the handbrake release post, then this is the bit I couldn't believe another mechanic came over with a torch thing and they knelt down one either side of the front seats and proceeded to look for these little bits of plastic that button had broken into. They couldn't find anymore than the piece I had given them. I tell you the time they took I thought they weren't doing a fingertip search of the Ark Royal. They eventually said will have to order one in... I asked could they not come up with some clever solution, you know a bit of blue tack and pen top? anyway no was the answer, I tried the button post again and could depress it, I was told just don't pull the handbrake on full tilt and you will be o.k. until part arrives. Chemist was next on my list drove round parked car but brake wouldn't hold on the incline, found flatter parking, more rain and wind tottered through by me, then back again to car. Home then, wasn't sure about car being stable winds were much stronger. Parked up stuck gear into reverse applied handbrake that seemed o.k.. Have to say I did consider putting a brick under the wheel. I know it sounds like I am driving a death trap, its just that I live 1300 feet up a mountain and that has a bit of an incline...finally got indoors changed coat and put on wellies off with the dogs across the field came home and caught sight of myself in the mirror, and I did have to laugh my hair looked like Tommy Cooper with his fez on.
DH or SB whichever you prefer emailed to say he was safe, 2 foot of snow and of course the 'arctic vortex' temperatures. I was in hopes he was going to say his dangly bits had frozen and dropped off, I can dream!
Why he thinks I want to know he is safe I'm not sure. But I did not respond so I think I am going to add 2 steps to my bridge, I'm above high tide flood alert there.
Thank you for your advice, and support it is appreciated. Off to add another question to my list for solicitor.

Hi withany, I for one like your style, whatever it is!

And someone wrote earlier (can't remember who now) that the title of your post re the bridge was puzzling, well you spelled it our very clearly. Good for you for adding another few feet or yards or metres to it, you are nearly on to the other side. In the meanwhile, hold tight and pay attention!

Withany I love your posts and admire the way your sense of humour is so strong in spite of your problems. Perhaps that is helping you to cope,I do hope so.

Love your sense of humour and admire you for being able to keep it in such awful circumstances. As you say your solicitor is dealing with this type of thing day in and day out and she is possession of all the details of your situation. Do keep posting, we are all rooting for you.

Can empathise about the weather and new hairdo - my hair always looks great when the hairdresser finishes, I step outside the door, the wind picks up and my hair immediately gives up the ghost and sits flat on my head!!

He has a cheek doesn't he!

Buggers off to the US to make music with the Yamaha organ lady, after 45 years of marriage, then updates you with reports on his welfare

It wouldn't surprise me if in the event of his little romance not developing as he hopes, he will return to you and expect to pick up where he left off!

Does he ever ask how you are doing?

Just heard from the garage New button 70 pounds, I used DH name and said blimey God knows what DH will say 70 pounds for a button. Mechanic said well it might be a bit cheaper but that's what the system said it would cost.
That is half of my pension credit weekly income, but it costs what it costs, I mean I can't carry a brick around to shove under the wheels, well I could but I'd need to tie a rope on it, with the dodgy knee, I used walking stick to push it in place last night. If I fall over I will be like a beached whale. Garage say they will ring me can do it before week end.
I'm certainly racking up the pounds (sorry no pound sign on kindle) electrician, bulbs and heater for the fish tank, button replacement.

Yes, Riverwalk I agree 100% with you. If he has the nerve to come home again, not necessarily with his tail between his legs, he will get a nasty shock because in the nicest possible way, the worm has turned so he will not have a hot meal and his washing done when he returns.

Well Charleygirl he certainly won't unless he has moved someone into his one bed flat... I am just clearing the hall of his jackets, boots and so on all into a black bag, storing in spare room for now, but they will all go out in the garage eventually. I have been out with the dogs again and it is still raining, think I will need a boat to go with my bridge, and yes I will learn how to row it.
Take care everyone

withany just got in from work and had to switch on to see how you were doing. I cant tell you how pleased I am with your upbeat last posting. Keep at it girl, you have shown far greater resiliance in 6 weeks or so that I managed to show in 6 months so full credit to you. You are a better man than me *#~ (confused) if you know what I mean!
Well done and keep it up.

I meant

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caz!

Sorry, caz but your post has left me gobsmacked. And I'm not going to put a "grin" emoticon at the end of this post.

Now I am going to take my life in my hands and suggest that you think of writing up your experiences as a blog You have a flair for writing and a GSOH. The activity might also give you a focus. Interested?

That's cruel Caz.

I find Withany's witty anecdotes quite poignant, considering what her husband has done to her.