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Withany's bridge

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withany Fri 03-Jan-14 00:10:17

Hi, some of you already know of my DH and what he has done to me and our family, so after surviving Christmas with the help of you lot, the New Year's Party, that I don't remember how I got home from,confused i am back here to let you know that my little saying of 'Cry a river, build a bridge, walk over the bridge to a new life' is being put into operation I have bought a hard hat and my bridge is under constructionsmile
Gave my DH and floosie a shock this morning, we bank online,but this morning I could not log in, after having my card cloned last year, my first thought was either DH had changed bank long in details or my computer had been hacked. I emailed DH and said what had happened and he had 30 mins to tell me if it was him or I was going to cancel all bank cards. Well he didn't email, so I rang her house in #America and when she answered I asked to speak to my DH please, she made some sort of response so I repeated the request and then DH came on the line, said he knew nothing about changing the bank, don't cancel his card, he would try and log on from there and see if he could find a problem. He then sent me a mail in seconds saying don't cancel my card I shall be stuck here and not able to get home!
Well GN's I think he thought I had come down with the last lot of rain, I responded with You have a return ticket and a girl friend to lend you the money, you can get home.
He then rang me and said he could get into the accounts, would I try again and let him know what had happened. I spoke to bank, they checked system had no idea why system had locked me out, but everything was o.k. I let DH sweat a bit and then emailed and said bank o.k., solicitor stuff ready for when you return.
I think it must have been a shock to answer the phone and I am on the other end, I do hope sogrin it has put a smile on my face several times today. The fact that I was shaking when I phoned, and I have been a bit wobbly since speaking to him, well I expect thats normal. But I am counting what I did as the first part of the foundation for my bridge. I may have to dig a bit deeper or even start again, but my bridge is on the way, there has been no crying today. flowers take care everyone thank you so much for your support.

Anne58 Wed 08-Jan-14 19:48:04

I agree Soutra, I'm still trying to get started on mine. I like the way withany writes.

whenim64 Wed 08-Jan-14 19:48:47

That's a good point, Soutra. Other posters' input can distract or send you in a different direction, whereas a blog is all yours to shape as you want.

Agus Wed 08-Jan-14 19:58:30

Hi Caz. Got it. You are the DH.

withany Wed 08-Jan-14 22:11:45

Thank you every one, my solicitor told me to keep a journal just write everything down, it's really great therapy, I can use all sorts of expletives, have heard of a blog, not sure if that would be a step too far for me. I seem to have been joined at the hip to a computer since DH left, doing research, responding to email Skype calls, journal and GN, if I'm not careful it will become my life support, I am enjoying the experience of posting to a forum, I count myself lucky I chose this one.
One day, I will be able to post that I have won enough battles with hubby to have won the war, I would love to post a happy ending.

Charleygirl Wed 08-Jan-14 22:18:47

I am keeping fingers crossed that the ending will be a happy one for you. I am not too bothered about him.

jinglbellsfrocks Wed 08-Jan-14 22:22:27

Oh, which bit of "GNHQ" thought that was worth deleting? hmm

Soutra Wed 08-Jan-14 22:27:58

hmm It seems to me that caz expressed an opinion but alas the thought police have lodged an objection. Seems a bit draconian.

Whenim64 has a good point about a blog - you keep control of it whereas on a chat thread anybody can and indeed should be entitled to comment.

Charleygirl Wed 08-Jan-14 22:31:08

I missed what caz said. Was it so awful?

jinglbellsfrocks Wed 08-Jan-14 22:32:25

No. hmm

Ana Wed 08-Jan-14 22:33:05

It does seem that individual opinions which some find unsympathetic to the OP on this and other threads are automatically deleted if someone reports them. It must be a new Gransnet Lite edict.

Agus Wed 08-Jan-14 22:33:09

As GNHQ were instrumental in deleting the thread, they will have your answer.

Soutra Wed 08-Jan-14 22:35:42

Ana - you and I do not always see eye to eye, but I'm with you on this one!

jinglbellsfrocks Wed 08-Jan-14 22:36:11

They haven't deleted the thread. Just the post. smile

whenim64 Wed 08-Jan-14 22:41:29

caz's scepticism opened the thread up to enable other suggestions to be made e.g. keep a blog. Surprised to see it deleted.

Ana Wed 08-Jan-14 22:46:23

I said 'opinions on threads' jingl! hmm

jinglbellsfrocks Wed 08-Jan-14 23:00:25

That was about Agus's post! Not yours! hmm grin

Ana Wed 08-Jan-14 23:01:53

Oh yes! Sorry...grin

Agus Wed 08-Jan-14 23:17:16

Oh fart! grin

Soutra Wed 08-Jan-14 23:34:26

gringrin - it's getting to that time of night..................

Iam64 Thu 09-Jan-14 07:35:09

I'm amazed that Caz's comment was deleted. I now understand why Jinglebellsfrocks (or whatever name you have today Jingle) started her site stuff Why? thread.

NfkDumpling Thu 09-Jan-14 07:48:17

WHAT COMMENT?! I do sooo hate it when this happens. Turn my back for a minute....

And yes Withany, a blog would be great. And you too Phoenix. You both write so well.

jinglbellsfrocks Thu 09-Jan-14 08:34:29

Are we suggesting that this blog should be on Gransnet, or tucked away in a little corner of the Webosphere somewhere? Any votes? smile

cazthebookworm Thu 09-Jan-14 09:27:05

You are SO funny jingl, you do make me laugh. grin

JessM Thu 09-Jan-14 09:58:58

Well GN blogs are just a short one-off piece, so it would need to be on Blogger or somewhere like that.

Soutra Thu 09-Jan-14 10:17:06

Right now I feel that if opinions are to be censored out of the thrrad and comments/suggestions/ questions from GNetters who have professional experience or have found themselves in a similar unhappy situation, are to be dimissed as"barrackroom lawyers" (that hurt!) then this thread is going to turn into a blog anyway.