Who cares about becoming invisible?

When on my scooter I wear a red leather jacket!
I'm still invisible!

Such talents!
Not struck by images of older women in underwear or trying to look 40 years younger I have to say.
I think part of the issue is personality - some people really want to be noticed at all their ages and some really don't want to be noticed, with all shades in between. If you are a want to be noticed personality you will probably carry on making an effort in that direction. If not, you may welcome the opportunity to attract less attention.
There is also the issue of work, and what kind of image you seek to present.
Most of the time (and working from home) I wear "outdoor" clothing but I have started wearing red shades of lipstick. If I want to be noticed I would wear an unusual jacket and the full-on version of red lipstick. Does make you look like you want to be noticed.

Perhaps the curled tongue will work better.

I can waggle my ears AND curl my tongue into a tube. But I hadn't realised it got me noticed. Next time someone lets a door go in my face I'll waggle my ears at them!

I can turn my tongue sideways in my mouth. a friend of mine took her car for a recall repair and they saw a rats nest in her motor somewhere I didn't ask for details,anyway she asked them to remove it and they told her no and the rat was probably somewhere in her car! I told her if she was 40 years younger those men would of been happy to help her.I remember being young and never having to wait long to get help with a flat tire. a speeding ticket? Nope! Just smile!

Same here!

I can raise both eyebrows independently but only one side of the top lip (as in Elvis Presley). I bet you're all trying it now!

I always wanted a sister too Galen but I got two younger brothers. I have a slightly dotty SiL who is the nearest thing I have to a sister.

Lots of friends on GN though.

I wish! I never had a sister, only a little brat of a younger brother!

My father could waggle his ears too. Are we sisters?

I can raise both of mine!

Father could waggle his ears. I can't!

rockgran I can raise one eyebrow, it's genetic (I think), my dad could do the same and so can my brother. The only time I ever had a shot of botox, I lost that ability and was horrified!

Well said glass.

There was a time, very long ago, when visibility reduced me to a state of invisibility - a state of nothingness and worthlessness.

Today, I now choose. On the whole, nobody defines my feelings about how I am seen or how I see myself in this world. I'm private and somewhat reclusive when I want to be, a way of being invisible if you like. That's my 'go to' option. But then there are other times when I like being visible - just a bit.

As B said, it's an art that needs to be perfected - rather like tuning a piano.

Whoever talks across you to someone who is standing, is very rude, Galen. I bet you don't find they do it if they're sitting down, (where you're all included in a group)?

When I grow up I'm going to be Christine Lagarde. She's my role model and I do need one.

If I have someone with me, I get talked across, not to. And people cross in front of me as though I wasn't there and obviously can't see me when they're chatting on the thoroughfare and blocking it! Even when I ask excuse me please or toot my horn!
I'm obviously inaudible as well as invisible!

RESPECT to elegran and lefthanded

When I was having problems with a printer/scanner that I had bought from Comet a young salesman asked me what brand of computer I was using. When I told him it was no brand - I built it myself from scratch (quite true) he started to look at me in a new light!

Marelli you have what is known as "presence"...a very lovely lady.

Personally, I couldn't care less. I've more important things to concern me.

I don't think I've ever felt invisible - maybe I'm too tall! A bit like a scraggy wallflower What I do find sometimes, though, is that shop assistants can be extra 'nice' to me. That I don't mind. My having long white hair might be a bit of a let-down to any half-interested workie on a building site, though -when I turn round!

Rockgran We had computers way back with the BBC Micro, so I acquired a certain familiarity with them. Then came an exciting addition - a handheld scanner that you could roll down the page and capture an image.

I bought one of these, attached it and found it did not work. What's more, with a bit of exploration and a vague memory of things DH had muttered about problems he had had with equipment at work,, I found out why it did not work -( its choices of IRQs was totally incompatable with the IRQs of the other bits that it was working with, if you really want to know)

So I took it back, and just said it would not work with my computer and I was returning it. Teenage expert took it into a back room to the boss, came back and said it worked perfectly with theirs, had I switched it on properly, and no, I could not get my money back, so I asked him about his IRQs.

He looked completely flummoxed, took it back into the back room again to ask his boss and returned with the money.

Non illegitimi corborundum.

I am a role model for myself.
I can be charming or I can do 'the look', and I'm only 'invisible' when I choose to be.
Generally, I find being older is liberating and although I do have lapses of confidence, and times when I feel anxious, I keep them to myself.

Or share them with Gransnet

Aka you can wear your pants any which way you like - over the jim jams, back to front - even on your head - that certainly would provoke a reaction!

Funny enough I was thinking about this the other day. Now I'm not saying this is a fact but are we women (not us granetters) complain when we are young that we are only seen as sexual beings. Then when we are ageing and no longer seen as sexual beings we complain that we have become invisible. I was no great beauty but I had a fair share of second glances and wolf whistles. No more I look my age and I have now become almost invisible. If I'm honest I do miss it a bit. However it has it's upsides. I don't have to worry so much. What I am finding hard is that I was once right in the centre of things both family and work now I am aware that younger members are now taking on that role and I'm moving towards the outer edges. It's natural the circle of life I suppose. So Molly I do think it's an interesting topic and a relevant one. I don't need a role model but I would appreciate seeing more people over 50 in the media.

I meant to add that on the whole I find a smile and a wisecrack can usually diffuse any uncomfortable situations. Failing that I revert to teacher mode. I can still do "the look" - a slightly raised eyebrow and a grim stare.