Who's there for *you*...

I have not been there yet.

My Daughter - my best friend! Although I try not to burden her too much as she's got her own family & worries, but it's a two way street as she knows I'm there for her too.

I know DDs would come to my aid if asked, but I have promised myself that I shall never be a burden to them, so would probably suffer in silence. I am much more comfortable being there for them instead.

Two sons and two sisters, though I wish they lived nearer to me.

Not many. My sister is coming tomorrow - but emotional things are difficult for her....she's been good to me, practically, since I've been ill.

My daughter, for a long while, but things have changed, she has a job and a new boyfriend and her own health problems - hasn't phoned me since Wednesday.

Gransnet!

Nobody now. A year ago I would have said my oldest brother, but he died of cancer last January. He was almost 10 years older than me and was a huge influence on me when we were growing up.

It's a very scary thought Aka

I'd say no-one automatically (apart from OH of course) but I'm not sure that's true ... I find it hard to ask for help or even to admit to problems so I'm probably my own worst enemy but I expect one or two would surprise me and step forward if they knew help was needed.

My youngest daughter, my best friend and my darling husband.

My DH and DD but there's sometimes things that need to be discussed with someone other than family. I should be able to say my close friend but she has various problems herself health and otherwise. So I don't like to burden her. Having said that she told me off for not telling her until months after I was diagnosed diabetic.

Depends on the problem really. My dd and ds are always there, and I have a circle of close friends who have seen me through all my traumas for the last 5 years.
It goes both ways, and I'm always 'there' for them too.

Having had many health and family problems over the years I've been in that place and I am blessed with a brilliant husband, in-laws, very kind friends and caring children. I also have a wonderful GP.
I once was bedridden at home for eight weeks and really poorly; it was a very humbling experience as I watched my friends and family and my GP in action caring for me and keeping the household running; the children were still at home and quite anxious, but did their bit to visit me and lift my spirits. Since then I've had other occasions when friends and family have stepped up to help when I'm on 'overload' and I appreciate every one of them.
I feel privileged when I can be the one that others turn to and have learned over the years to allow others to be there for me. I am always saddened to hear that people are isolated or feel they have no-one to turn to. Thank goodness Gransnet is here to partly fill that breach.

25 yrs!! Not 5.

My "old soul" daughter, and a clutch of close friends, and my husband and son too.

You lot!
Hard luck!
Seriously, you are all wonderful in a crisis?

My mum and dad were always there for me,since their deaths I have 3 really good friends who are always there for me and I for them,Daughter" talks the talk" but doesn't always "walk the walk".

DH, mostly, and DD. but, thinking about it, I don't find it easy.

When my husband became very ill and eventually died and soon after when I needed to move, my family were wonderful, but they lived at a distance. Then it seemed as if people came out of the woodwork to help, neighbours I hardly knew became real friends and work colleagues were amazing. It's the one lovely and uplifting thing that came out of the most traumatic time of my life.

DH, DD1, DS, DD2 in that order. My younger brother is also a rock in times of crisis. I'm very lucky.

That has made me think Aka it ought to be DH but ..... No I think now I would probably turn to you all (and have done).

I don't know

My instant reaction to reading this OP was - " me". I have many good friends, but my go to position is to sort it out in some measure for myself. Only then can I open up and move forward with friends support.

Same here ffinnochio. When I was in trouble health-wise a few years ago my children wrested control and instructed me to rely on them. They were marvellous and did so much to help me, emotionally, physically and in practical ways and I know they're there if I need them, and vice versa, but my default position is my own inner resources.