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whitewave Thu 20-Feb-14 15:35:05

Perhaps we could have some sort of pax system for those of us feeling bulllied. But people must understand the difference between lively debate where they will read stuff they don't like and actual bullying, and I am not sure after re-reading the thread that there was any bullying going on, well at least nothing that I would feel bullied about if I was Margaret74

Penstemmon Fri 21-Feb-14 22:50:28

I am useless at remembering who said what to whom and when and cannot ever be bothered to trail back to find out so no idea what is being referred to. But soutra there are some posters who do use ' get out' strategies and fall back on, sometimes unconnected, personal incidents to try to make others feel a bit guilty for posting a challenge or opposing views! Unbelievable but true!

Aka Fri 21-Feb-14 22:52:14

Unbelievable indeed.

jinglbellsfrocks Fri 21-Feb-14 22:55:47

Quoting Penstemmon "With one statement there is an implication that the poster finds sharp ripostes bullying but then are happy to jibe at other posters and add side remarks and emoticons directed at 'friends' in a rather cliquey fashion which appear to be directed against another poster."

I just can't sort out what that means. And it's really puzzling me.

I think that is a weird complaint to make. Why not speak up at the time, in the thread?

jinglbellsfrocks Fri 21-Feb-14 22:57:06

This is all so "hole-in-the-wall"!

Penstemmon Fri 21-Feb-14 23:13:40

And your point is what? I am not upset by ripostes jingle it is part of the purpose of debates and discussions to exchange views.
I am not playing a victim or suggesting that people are being unfair to me. Soutra was suggesting that those things do not happen. I have seen them happen and was simply reinforcing that point. Nothing sinister, cliquey or 'hole in the wall'.. (the ATM?) hmm

merlotgran Fri 21-Feb-14 23:16:14

I can't believe this thread has dragged on for EIGHT pages. hmm

jinglbellsfrocks Fri 21-Feb-14 23:19:25

I just don't understand what the post I quoted, actually means.

Never mind. moon

jinglbellsfrocks Fri 21-Feb-14 23:20:11

I know merlot! shock I, for one, will shut up. grin

Galen Fri 21-Feb-14 23:30:21

moon all!XXXX

durhamjen Fri 21-Feb-14 23:38:35

Is it possible for one person to have two usernames going at the same time? I did not think it was, TOOBIG.

Oystercatcher Fri 21-Feb-14 23:40:23

I'm sure it is jen

Soutra Fri 21-Feb-14 23:51:10

I take your point Penstemmon but feel that harking back to an unknown GNetter some (unspecified) time ago is like those awful arguments where someone drags up something you are supposed to have said YEARS ago (and of which you may have no recollection) . I don't believe in harbouring grudges and if I have a problem with somebody or what somebody has said I would much rather have it out in the open at the time. If somebody "uses" a personal situation/poorly partner/gammy leg or whatever to get out of a situation - agreed - it is underhand and a bit like giving someone a particularly hideous crocheted "crinoline lady toilet-roll cosy" and as their features congeal in disgust adding "made by the handicapped". That is called Gamesmanship.wink

TOOBIGFORTHEIRBOOTS Sat 22-Feb-14 07:06:30

Penstemmon understand my point exactly when it comes to people who -
use ' get out' strategies and fall back on, sometimes unconnected, personal incidents to try to make others feel a bit guilty for posting a challenge or opposing views!

Its the Gransnet equivalent of people playing the 'race card', its what my bully did and was sadly nothing to do with the kind and very real possible scenario suggested by Soutra earlier on.

Gransnet is what people have made it, but sadly there are more people popping in for a few days then moving on than there are those who stay. Perhaps those who have made Gransnet the place it now is should be looking around the forum and seeing what potential members see.

TOOBIGFORTHEIRBOOTS Sat 22-Feb-14 07:10:16

Jingle, I would change the font size if I could. It looks even bigger in the light of day. :D

thatbags Sat 22-Feb-14 08:07:05

bigboots, if you contact HQ ([email protected]) and ask them to put your username in small letters, they will do it for you. They'll shorten it too if you so desire smile

TOOBIGFORTHEIRBOOTS Sat 22-Feb-14 08:28:50

Thank you for that. smile

Aka Sat 22-Feb-14 08:55:21

It's really rather funny on a bullying thread * bigboots* in an ironic sort of way grin

jinglbellsfrocks Sat 22-Feb-14 08:59:54

Yes. You could shorten it to toobig.

If you want to. confusedsmile

TOOBIGFORTHEIRBOOTS Sat 22-Feb-14 09:14:49

Aka, the name was a ref to the bully and yes, I did have a wee laugh at the irony of it afterwards.

Jingle, toobig reminds me of a time in Subway when the server asked me if I wanted 6 inches or 8 inches. I wont say what my innocent reply was but people burst out laughing and I didn't understand till I got home and my daughter explained to me what I had actually implied by my reply.

Yikes smile

jinglbellsfrocks Sat 22-Feb-14 09:21:42

grin

Aka Sat 22-Feb-14 09:26:55

I liked bigboots as used by bags.

kittylester Sat 22-Feb-14 09:34:36

Anyone else as bewildered by all this as I am? Did I miss something yet again?

Aka Sat 22-Feb-14 09:36:45

I think it started when Absent pointed out to TOOBIGFORTHEIRBOOTS that her see name, being in capitals, sounded like she was shouting at us!

jinglbellsfrocks Sat 22-Feb-14 09:37:41

Are we supposed to remember what started it all off?! buggered if I do

Aka Sat 22-Feb-14 09:38:48

User name I meant.