DD3 is married to an idiot!!

kitty - I did take my youngest on one side before the marriage and ask what he thought he was doing. He agreed that there was a problem and came home for a week, then went back to her saying that he missed her. I also asked for clarification from my eldest when his new wife was clearly taking him rapidly to the cleaners. This resulted in him not speaking to me for 7 months. Soon after this the twins were conceived and it was all too late.

My dog and my cat give me infinite adoration and no trouble! Need I say more?

Actually, I do think that marriage is a pot luck affair really. DH and I have grown together rather than apart but it is more by luck than judgment I believe.

But it doesn't stop one worrying about or being hurt for them when they get it so obviously wrong. The risk of causing a split with them, as I said above, could result in them having no where to turn when/if it all goes wrong.

Reading Kitty and Speckies posts is interesting. The idea that our children make their choice of partner/marriage, based on how they viewed our choices, does not seem to work out.

I did think that choices of a partner was usually reflected by parental example but I am not so sure now. Perhaps my relationship was not in the state of near collapse it is now when my children were still at home.

Yes I also feel I am to blame in some way.

I do have reservations about my sons relationship in particular and my DDs husband seems far too addicted to his computer games and rather OCD about tidiness etc.

Its very hard to acknowledge that you have worries about your kids relationships, We all like to "pretend" it's all happy successful families.

(((hugs))) to all in this situation.

It's flipping hard being a parent, isn't it!

Oh yes Nelliemoser I have admitted to myself for some time that my D's marriage was not working but as far as friends and other family are concerned there is no problem .I wonder sometimes if I am being given the same impression as to the "wonderful marriages" of their own children.

Meant to add, DD3 is coming with DS1, Dh and I to DD1's house today for lunch, leaving the idiot to look after his two little one and his two older children. Bet they go out for lunch!

I bumped into a friend the other day, the first thing she did was wail "I hate being a parent to adult children!"

She has 4 children all in their 20s and early 30s. I laughed because she doted on them when they were little. I also laughed because I know what she means!