My eldest gs was diagnosed with Aspergers soon after starting primary school. Managed those years with help from TA. However, secondary school was a disaster almost from day 1, even though the school had been selected carefully on the basis that it had a good SENCO department. Before the end of year 7, he was being told he could only come into school later, after the other pupils came in, and had to leave earlier and whilst there had his lessons by himself. Result, an 11-year old with severe depresssion. His parents managed to get him transferred to a special school for autistic children. As none of these are any more under the state system, the cost to the local educational authority was enourmous. They tried to oppose it, but his parents fought the system and got him in. He attended there as a weekly boarding pupil, (too far to come home every night), for four years, came out with a pretty good handful of high level GCSE's, and the knowledge on managing his own symptoms. Went on local 6th form college and is well on the way to some excellent A level results. Probably will go on to Uni. The cost of those four years was well spent and in the long run - he will go on to become a normal citizen, with job paying taxes, etc, a lot less than if he had been unemployable and needing care for the rest of his life.