Floria, this is the trouble when, as far as family is concerned, we are all things to all people and we are able to smile and stay strong even in troubled times. We end up becoming the family rock, and yes, people know we cope and don't complain. I suspect many of us, now " getting on a bit" feel the same way.
Occasionally it's good to try and be good to ourselves and forget the needs of others for a while, but I think when we become mothers that's it!! We carry on trying to do our best if we possibly can, for all family members.
I try to remember that I have less time in front of me these days, and if I am not going to carve out some blissful 'me time' now, after a life of graft and stress, then when will I?
I think we owe it to ourselves now to try and make life as pleasant and easy as we possibly can, before we pop our clogs.
Old age brings problems with it of health and strength, and although I tell myself I am invincible ( hah!) I know I am slowing down.
Floria, you are not a grump, but you are stretched thinly by all your commitments, and people get so used to you being there and strong that they forget you need time off too, and time to recharge your batteries. I have many health problems but I am so very thankful that I can do things still and be there for my family. Yes, the mirror tells us we aren't as young as we once were, but it's lovely that you are young at heart and don't give in to age. It is but a number. Like you, I am strong in spirit and never want to be a burden to anyone, so I have decided to love myself a little bit more, knowing I can't go on forever.
Try and do a little less for others, and a bit more for yourself if you can. It's a blessing to be strong and healthy but it can mean people take your energy for granted. Be unavailable, occasionally. ( Easier said than done, I know.)