Presents for Adult Working Grandchildren

Daisy what a lovely, kind person you are.

I haven't got grandchildren but I do give to my nieces and nephews until they start earning. Some of my older nephews have their own families now and I used to send presents to them but have stopped recently as we never see the children, so don't know them, nor were we getting any acknowledgement of receipt of said gifts. Also they never sent any cards\gifts to my children (similar age to theirs) so that used to rankle a bit with me. Don't feel guilty either, they are high earners and we certainly are not in that league by any stretch of the imagination.

We have stopped sending Birthday & Christmas money & gifts to sons & grandchildren, as we never ever get thanked. Not even an email thank you. It really bugs me, as I always wrote thank you letters as a child . Today's children -appear to take everything for granted I feel. Even recent wedding cheques for a reasonable sum never got acknowledged. Grrrrrr.....

Nieces and nephews get a card with £5 scratch cards or lottery tickets. Their children get a £10 to £20 gift or money. My own 2 children and one grandchild get about £150 each. This all seems to work well amongst the family as we all do roughly the same.

Seeing as uve missed the 18,21 birthdays, I'd tell everyone that at 25 they will get a card ( maybe a token small gift of toiletries)!

I only buy Christmas presents for the GC not the adults , we decided to do this a few years ago and what a relief it has been . I still buy birthday presents for my children and other family but it is usually some thing small and well thought out , for instance I have bought my Aunt a beautiful vintage china cup and saucer from a charity shop (£5) and a silver antique teaspoon to go with it . I had begun to dread Christmas prior to this as I seemed to spend several weeks wracking my brains to think of things to buy . Now I buy all year round when I see something that a particular GC would like , I don`t spend a fortune either !

My grandchildren are still at school. But I remember my mum buying for nephews and nieces (and she had a good few as she and my dad came from large families) she would buy for the children up until they were 18 and then she stopped as they were all usually working by that point. Her brothers and sisters all thought it was a great idea and adopted her idea.

Only give card and voucher to the youngest. Older ones are working now so they just get a card

This is such an interested thread and we probably all wonder about this.
Only this Xmas gone did my son & his wife decide to stop exchanging Xmas presents. They have one daughter so he just bought a present from her to me worth around £ 150.00, which is exactly the budget I have for my DGD. LOL He cheated I thought but it was lovely.
I still give both my DS and DIL £ 100 for their birthdays and they give me albeit slightly more generous.

I stopped buying Xmas presents for just about everyone this year too, but still give DGD, god children and cousins' children birthday presents. My DGD gets £ 150 the others the others get £ 30 each. I wish I could stop every one but my DGD, but feel so mean if I do. I always send a card for birthdays and Xmas for every one I know

This is such an interested thread and we probably all wonder about this.
Only this Xmas gone did my son & his wife decide to stop exchanging Xmas presents. They have one daughter so he just bought a present from her to me worth around £ 150.00, which is exactly the budget I have for my DGD. LOL He cheated I thought but it was lovely.
I still give both my DS and DIL £ 100 for their birthdays and they give me albeit slightly more generous.

I stopped buying Xmas presents for just about everyone this year too, but still give DGD, god children and cousins' children birthday presents. My DGD gets £ 150 the others the others get £ 30 each. I wish I could stop every one but my DGD, but feel so mean if I do. I always send a card for birthdays and Xmas for every one I know

Parents, spouse, children & grandchildren will always have birthday & Christmas present or money, but siblings and their children it all stops at 18.

I am an early retired teacher on an actuarially reduced pension which is very small. My husband keeps us with his job and, though we live in a nice house and seem well off we just keep our heads above water.

My DS has fed the myth to her children, my DNs, over the years that we are well off and they have often remarked, 'you're rich' to us in a very envious fashion.

I have, up to recently, sent them £30 for birthdays and Christmas and £50 for significant numbers like their 18th and 21st birthdays. Being in somewhat straightened circumstances I have dropped the sum to £20. They are not impressed and I receive no thank yous.

It is all a bit sad, really.

I have 5 grandchildren ranging in ages from 25 to 18 months, my husband and choose a suitable gift for the younger ones and a gift or money for the eldest. They all have the same amount spent on them. They all say thank you for their gifts.

I would never penalise the people I give gifts to for not saying 'Thank you'. To me it is about the giving and I know that gifts are appreciated without having to be thanked for them. I accept that there are many pressures on people that mean an intended phone-call / card of thanks can get missed and I don't want anyone wracked with guilt on my behalf.

I raised my children to be thankful and to acknowledge gifts and they do tend to, but as someone who grew up aware of the damage that 'conditional' love can do, I take a relaxed view. I have made a point of telling wedding couples /new parents especially NOT to worry about a thank you - they have enough going on!

To answer the OP directly, in our family we give presents up to age of 21. I make a bigger deal of 21 than 18. After that it is a card.

Before my wife died, it was always a present. Since she has gone, I have chickened out, and now, they each get an M & S voucher, at a level that I can afford. Seems to fit the bill, especially for my7 grand daughters.