lunch

My H seems to always be eating and he not overweight by any means, just a runner and cyclist. It drives me mad but he gets it himself and I just do the evening meal, except on Monay when it's his turn. The bit that drives me mad is going out for the day he still expects to eat lunch but I leave that to him to either make a sandwich or buy something. Mind you if I do make something for lunch he thinks he has died and gone to heaven.

We only eat our evening meal together.Different getting up times in morning mean different breakfast times and we eat as and when and if we want during the day. Works for us...but I do wish he'd offer to make the evening meal sometimes! And believe me, I've dropped some hints!!

When we were both working breakfast took care of itself since DH was a shift worker, and he retired a long time before me. Lunch wasn't an issue either. We made or bought something. Then I retired and had to start thinking about 3 meals a day, rather than 1. Soon adjusted and made sure I shopped accordingly. There is always something there. We eat what we fancy, usually at the same time, often different food, often at a pub. Things find their own level don't they?

A favourite (hopeful) phrase in this house is Mr L saying
‘Time for lunch, do you think?’
My reply varies, depending on what I am doing, so I either say, ‘I’m not hungry yet. You go ahead.’ Or ‘ ok what would you like?’ Sometimes he makes me lunch, soup or a sandwich.

Can't you just explain that as you are both retired this is one meal he can do for himself? Are there lots of things he does and you don't which makes him think this is your job? A straightforward chat should solve it.

Merlot ?

How irritating merlotgran. I hope you tell him where the kitchen is.

"I could do with a bite to eat."

"There's plenty of stuff in the kitchen. I'm sure you can knock something up."

End of story.

Yes. What is it with men and lunch?

I was always happy to grab something quick at whatever time was possible or convenient but when we both retired DH started dropping lunchie euphemism hints as soon as mid-day beckoned.

'Bite to eat' is his favourite although 'Something to nibble at' (we're not mice FFS) will creep into the conversation when he's too scared to actually say the word, LUNCH.

If I bother with lunch I ask if he wants any, sometimes he wants something totally different to what I'm having so then he does it himself.
He's home all day so can move his backside and do his own. If he can't be bothered then he can go hungry lol.

A very old saying and one to stick to,
I married you for better or for worse but not for lunch.
I can't keep it up now but I did in the days I could get out, although H didn't like it, he would expect me to make him a sandwich and put it in Tupperware before I went out!!

When I first retired, lunch became a problem. DH was used to having lunch at noon, whereas I was used to eating on the run in school at one o'clock.
So I just told him what was in the fridge and to eat what he liked. It has worked out well.
I don't mind making dinner, but I would like to be able to have lunch when it suited me, not someone else.

I make sure the 'makings' are there but after that it's up to him to make whatever he fancies when he fancies it. I think you'll need to clarify the situation with your DH.