I think you looked after your GD for a very long time and packed loads of things into the day, so you were probably a bit tired and not expecting this reaction, so very upset. They too probably had had a busy day and were tired and worried/guilty about leaving their DD, even though they know she is happy and cared for. Also, you're probably right that DiL feels guilty about you providing childcare all the time and not her DM. Everything seems bit a stressful with first children. Rather than getting upset, just listen to what they say and ask yourself if they have a point - even did you feel like that with your first? Try to feed GD on a more regular basis, even if it means cutting down the trips, or taking food out with you. My DD always used to have a hissy fit about something or other, then phone/text later to apologise for being grumpy. I know the last thing in the world she wanted to do was leave DGS with anyone else but she has to work, so I would never ever threaten her with not providing childcare (couldn't do without him either ). We do disagree on the dummy though - with Nan he only has it if he needs it (rarely) - and she manages to keep remarkably quiet about it! Like other posters, I would say enjoy your GD, perhaps drop her off to DiL, who must be missing her, and decide between you where she should eat her evening meal. Keep the details of the day positive and short. You will all start to relax eventually!
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Last weekend, in Rutland, the first statue in Britain of the late Elizabeth II was unveiled.