Dear Gns,
I could use your help. My mother is now in her early eighties and still living independently, she is in good health overall, with the odd ache and pain, but capable of doing pretty much everything for herself. My only problem is her driving - she used to be a good driver and, to my knowledge, no accidents; I went for a drive with her recently and was terrified. She is hesitant, drives far too slowly and she tends to hug the shoulder. She says she will probably give up driving when she is around 85 unless the car (very old) gives out first.
I dont know how to tell her that her driving is appalling, I suspect her eyesight (which she tells me is perfect, and is clearly not) should take some of the blame, but whatever the reason, she should no longer be driving. I wouldn't hurt her feelings for the world, but I would like her to be around for a good bit longer. I am afraid she will have an accident and get herself and/or others killed.
I could tell her, or I could "kill" the car (I use it quite regularly)
How would you wise ladies deal with this?