We have 6 children, 5 of whom have partners and children. At the moment, they still buy for each other and the kids. My DD is on a very low income and would like to stop buying for everyone and do a Secret Santa for the adults so that they can get one decent present each. Unfortunately one of the wives is insistent that she still gives presents because she likes it. The fact that she gives cheap, cheerful stuff, sometimes badly home-made, which nobody is likely to ever want or need is the salt in the wound for my DD because she feels she can't stop if this wife won't stop. It has become a bone of contention so this year, in about July, my DD messaged everyone to say no presents please. Unfortunately the awkward wife wrote to everyone saying she'd already got her presents so would be giving them out.
I feel that if she persists, they should just stop giving and it will be their choice but they don't want to upset her so on it goes. I wouldn't mind so much but they all moan to me!!!!