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Panache I am mortified. You cannot continue like this. There must be someone to whom you can turn. I cannot begin to tell you how frustrated I am. I want to step in and do something useful. It's a crazy situation that I cannot hope to fix on your behalf.

I've been making a first birthday card for our great granddaughter. During the tricky bit, our neighbour called in. His wife has had triple heart bypass surgery. She is making a slow recovery. It's unbelievable to think that just three weeks ago, we were looking forward to meeting up for a wee neighbourly party.

I need to do my ironing. After which, I shall endeavour to catch up. It will take some time.

Panache am I right in thinking you live in Dyfed?
Perhaps one of us lives somewhere near e.g.Haverfordwest and might be able to find you some help?

Good thinking, Maw

Just back from visiting H to read Panache's dire post.
How very sad I am and how very cross on your behalf that you are being treated this way.
My H's first stay in hospital , I wouldn't have him home until help was in place as he was totally immobile.
When he had his stroke, I did bring him home and managed for e
3 days but I knew the help would start as I was paying for it.
Once in the system it seems easier to access other services but I have to say our GP surgery were useless.
Once we were on Adult services system I had no hesitation in ringing and insisting on speaking to a SW.
The one we have at the moment is particularly good.
Please nag,nag and then nag some more.
The health of both of you, and as bad as it is, is only going to get worse.
Sorry to inject gloom and doom but that is reality.
My H was involved with craft when I arrived, he and the activity co-ordinator were making a banner saying Happy New Year and the room was being decorated.
They are kept quite occupied.
I have been asked if he can go on a trip to Liverpool next month. I have given conditional permission, depends on the cystoscopy results.

Panache I am incredibly saddened to hear that your situation can only be described as dire. I know, from experiences we have had with DH’s family in Gwent, that both stroke services and social care wheels seem to grind exceeding slow in Wales, and that those who shout the loudest get the most attention, but they have left you out on a limb for far too long. I echo those who say here that if there are local GNs who would help in any way, it would be a valuable start. Hang in there.

I was tempted in by the conviviality of this kitchen. Some lovely posts. However, like others I am dismayed at the plight of poor Panache and Mr. P. I do hope something is sorted out for you soon, Panache.

Welcome to Nandalot. We shall be very happy to have you join us lot.

ann I am thankful that your dear husband's care home sounds very similar to the one in which our pal is a long-term resident. The quality of his care over four years, has been heart-warming.

Ironing done. I am now going to watch a rugby match. I may have a nice cup of tea and a shortbread. Why not? We all deserve such treats.

Take good care of yourselves. Tabitha's food is in her cosy chalet. We have a feeling that she will return...only we have no idea when. Cats have their own agenda. It's how it should be.

Dear panache. If you phone 111 as suggested, I would hope someone would hear you. Alternatively, have you phoned the emergency social work number? If the 111 operator does not hear what you are saying and fobs you off, you could phone again an hour or so later. Repeated calls should be logged and noticed. This repeated call for help is how my father was eventually helped. (We could not get to him, as the roads were blocked). He was hospitalised as he had food but could not get to the kitchen to cook. They arranged a care package to send him home and get the bed back. He had lot of happy years after that. Please keep trying. I wish I could help in person. Hugs.

I second the suggestion to keep ringing 111 , please do you neeeeed help NOW xxx

Panache, forgive me, I am new here, but wonder if you are like a lot of us, when asked how things are, do you airily say 'oh fine - we get by'.
I am very guilty of that, but you MUST start telling it how it is to anyone who can provide any sort of help. Even go in the opposite direction and accentuate the difficulties.

I wish you and your husband a comfortable and lovely New Year ?

I only pop in on here now and again, but it is clear that panache is in a very difficult situation - I do not know the details. But if there is anything that I can do - I used to be a SW with adult services - I am happy to make any contribution that might be helpful. xxx

Oh for God’s sake Panache this just isn’t on. It’s almost beyond belief. Would I be wrong to think that maybe you are being too polite? Not persistent enough? Can you tell “them” you will contact your local newspaper? Please listen to the advice on here and ring 111. Please tell them how dire things are. Please tell them your husband is your carer and is now ill himself and losing weight? Can Lucky help you? Can you confirm you are near Haverfordwest and perhaps someone is not too far from there? Please Panache, please please persist. Please don’t be polite. I wish you both a very quick resolution to this dire situation. It makes me very, very angry.

At least they have a 111 service in Dyfed now; it was only rolled out at the end of October! In some parts of Wales they still don’t have it.

I’ll not add to the sensible and helpful suggestions expressed here panache other than to say I’m horrified at the picture you paint. Please do share your nearest big town, perhaps with lucky, in the hope somewhere there will be cavalry to help. Much as we all send love and wish you well it’s practical, hands on help you need now.

Hope you’re more comfortable greyd and your husband will be ok again in the morning dragonfly, these things are certainly sent to try us.

Hello, ella, good to see you. It’s a busy kitchen that’s for sure.

A minor issue I know but there is much gnashing of teeth here. The last of the home made sausage rolls were put to warm - and forgotten. The smell is very nasty, they are currently too hot to touch as we mourn their passing. I have been poured a glass of chilled white in consolation.

I’m off to drown my sorrows

Take care everyone.

I have drowned my sorrows with a G&T corner although sausage rolls were not involved. I hope the rest of your evening goes well.
A good evening to all including the Panaches although that is a forlorn hope .which is a terrible indictment of the SS system.
They must get some help soon or they will crumble .

I shall be thinking of the Panache’s this evening, it is so worrying.

It’s absolutely heartbreaking to hear of their plight, someone somewhere must be able to help. I only wish I was closer.

Having a glass of chilled white wine also, and counting my many blessings.

Greyduster when I suggested ringing 111 I had no idea how new that service was. It has been running in London for many years. Albeit not always 100% but definitely much improved now. I get frustrated when I have rung because my professional knowledge is greater than the person on the other end but I have had to answer the inane questions.

panache what a dreadful state you and DH are in. I can only follow others advice and keep phoning 111 until someone listens to you. It should be obvious to anyone you need help I don’t understand why no one is doing anything.

Welcome to all newcomers.

Sorry, I forgot to welcome all newcomers. The kitchen is large enough.

Evening all!!

Sorry to hear of Mr and Mrs Ps dire straits ! I hope help is just around the corner, surely they cannot be left to struggle on ?

Welcome newcomers, no sausage rolls thanks to Corner lol !! But we have stacks of shortbread!

It’s tough out there in greater GN tonight , I’d say it might even be a full moon ????

I am late coming to catch up today and so appalled at the continued lack of help for the Panache's. Being left to fend for themselves in such dire circumstances is nothing short of criminal in this day and age. I can only echo what others have said to keep ringing 111 until someone is sent out - an emergency doctors visit is surely warranted in the very least. I sincerely hope the GP can be arranged for Monday.

Ann that is a truly lovely picture of you both. I hope the home managed to locate your husband's clothes - it's so annoying when they go missing especially when they're new but unfortunately seems to be a fairly common occurrence. Your G&T sounds justly deserved.

Commiserations GreyD on your back and also to Mr Dragonfly - hope both are a little better tomorrow.

Sorry to hear about the sausage rolls Corner - did you set the smoke alarm off?! I tried our new microwave sandwich toaster yesterday which works well - a bit too well as the sandwiches were very burnt and the cheese seemed to have evaporated. The prescribed 5 minutes cooking time will need to be reduced to 3 on the next attempt.

I have not been too well since the early hours when I had a dreadful headache and bad palpitations then started to feel quite ill. We should have been out for a meal tonight but I thought it best to cancel and will attempt an early night shortly to try and catch up on sleep. Tis the season for such things it seems

Mr W is now in a strop having knocked over an entire can of ginger beer - just as well we don't have carpets!

I don’t often look at other threads than the kitchen but it is pretty lively out there!

Morning all Kitchener. I posted a huge long message yesterday but it isn't here. Hey ho!

I am incensed for the panaches and echo the advice to ring 111 or even 999 and/or the emergency Social Worker. Does anyone know their address (even vaguely) as I think it is really a safeguarding issue and the panaches are surely vulnerable and we should take action.

Good morning all, Kitty, I agree it is a safeguarding issue.
I am so worried about the Panache's.

Morning all,

I stuck my head above the parapet this morning and got it bitten off for my trouble. What is it with people only wanting posts that tell them what they want to hear ? if you don't 'there, there, there ' them you're 'nasty' !!

Im not feeling the ticket so I shall crawl back onto the sofa in the kitchen and stay here where the conversation is caring and honest. Pass the sausage rolls please !!

I shall be offline for a couple of days as the hordes arrive but will look in as and when I can to keep up. I hope The P's get some support if not I shall be arranging a coach for Jan 2nd for Grans Army to step in !!

An early Happy New Year to you all !!