Loud people

This reminded me of myself and hubby in a local hotel where a charity pop up sale was being held. On the way out we decided to sit in the bar area for a coffee. There was a table with about 3/4 women talking when one of them suddenly started shrieking with laughter. And I do mean shrieking to the point of near hysteria. I so wanted to tell her to shut up, but how do you tell someone who is obviously having the best fun ever to be quiet! Everyone else in the area was kind of shrinking into themselves to get away from the racket she was making!

No,it's not just you. I've noticed more and more lately that people seem to be getting so loud. There's one woman in particular, that I have come to dread sitting within 20 feet of me in my favourite coffee shop. She has such a loud,abrasive voice that I can literally feel my eardrums shuddering after being assaulted by her voice for 20 minutes. It has got to the point where I stick my earphones from my iPod in,even if I'm not actually listening to anything,just to dull the sound. And its not just women who've got louder. I have noticed that a lot of men,especially when they are talking on the phone,raise their voices so the whole shop/bus can hear them.

I've always been told I speak too loud but to me I am speaking normally. I am more of an introvert than extravert so I don't know why I do it.

Coming home on a late-evening train last year the entire carriage was treated to a young lady phoning her "bestie" and recounting in great detail the goings-on the previous night with her boyfriend. Other passengers studiously avoiding each others' eyes, but there were quite a few raised eyebrows and blushing cheeks!

The person in question is not a member of this group.

(Me looking to make sure anyone I know now is not present. )

Yes we have a member of a group and that member is very loud indeed. We need a switch so every one else can talk. That persons voice reverberates around the room. It is a bit too much.

I don't know whether you have these programmes in the UK but when I visit the hospital (regularly) I have to sit in a waiting room (or stand outside which I prefer) as there's a TV talk show with a lady called Ellen. Her audience is permanently hysterical, screaming and yelling for no apparent reason.

I think this is one of the reason people are loud, they've copied it from American TV. My son recently went to a Shakespeare performance and was appalled when the Kiwi audience reacted in the same way!!

Also, advertising encourages the me, me attitude of entitlement which was never prevalent in my youth when the prevailing life-style was 'make do and mend'.

With cellphone, I suppose those users must get used to having conversations in public and it brings out their show-off side.
I've encountered many raucous voices in the street with a seeming delight at their own importance - like little children with 'Watch me everyone!'
Only they've never really grown out of it.

It's more to be pitied than blamed.

Gosh. We'll all be whispering politely and trying not to be bossy at the GN meet up on Friday.

My friend, her mother, sister and brother all talk very loud. It’s just the way they are. My mum was a teacher and she spoke in a normal gentle voice. She never raised her voice to me or her classes of 30 senior school children no matter how difficult they could be. I too don’t like people talking very loud as it hurts my ears.

Well done Fountainpen .I personally find groups of women in their fifties the loudest.. only this week I went for a pub meal with my son ,every thing was nice tables nearby had couples chatting a few had some children with them no problem ,then a table of 5 women came in,oh my goodness the squaking & squeeling, we couldn't hear each other speak ! Sadly this is not a rare occurance ,seems every time I go to a restaurant or cafe if there is a group of women there is no hope of having a conversation.