Good Morning Thursday

Woke up this morning to complete white-out! Ca. 20 cms of fresh fluffy white stuff. Tree branches bending precariously meaning we had to go out and brush off the snow with a broom. Notwithstanding, just about to go out for a daily constutional although waiting until the commuters return after their lunch as otherwise we would be spashed with slush!

Oh dear love beige cardigan...if only you knew. The last thing I want to remember is my mean, self-centred old bat of a mother. It was always me me me and I came low on her list of priorities. I’m a great sewer but would have to put a very large gusset in these breeks! I’m still at a loss what to do with them.

Good Evening Mick; Another lovely day, warm 25C and dry, so a second day out with Freda. She has plenty of torque (not the girly sort!) and does everything I ask of her; It's a joy to ride her! OoRoo

First time I've ever done this - it's probably in the wrong place? My husband and I ( both 70) have a 37 year old, mentally-challenging and physically ill daughter ( she is hiv positive) who has come home to live with us for the last year as she has no job, no partner, no friends and nowhere to live ( she had been living in London in various dreadful flats which she always managed to wreck or fall out with the Landlord). She is also a recovering addict of various substances and alcohol ( which she seems to at least now have under control). She has returned home many times, always unsuccessfully and for much shorter periods. She suffers from serious post traumatic stress and over the last 10 years we have both been very involved in her life, doing everything and anything to try and help her. We have rescued her from squats, flats, police stations and psychiatric hospital wards. Nothing we have done has really helped her - and she seems incapable of helping herself despite our constant help (physical and financial), our support and our love. We have now found her 2 specialist counsellors to help get her out of bed each day and a specialist to help with some new "treatment" for her PTSD. We make sure she attends her appointments and we get her to her hiv clinic too. But despite this she is not willing to put anything else into a potential 'recovery' although it is common knowledge with all mentally-challenging health issues that good routines, good food and exercise will strengthen and help alongside other treatments. This is tearing us both apart and ruining our older age and marriage. We are all cooped together in a tiny house just watching her not improve. I also have a commitment to my 99 year old mother who is dying quietly in a local nursing home and I try to help our other daughter with our 3 grandchildren. I am permanently exhausted, depressed and bad tempered and I don't know what to do. I didn't think life could be this horrible at 70? We are now considering asking our very sick daughter to leave by the end of this year. What should we do??

Moom you are indeed caught on the horns of a dilemma ! You Daughter needs to try to help herself , but I have no idea how to get through to her . Addicts need to WANT to come off things , you can't do that for her , I am sorry not to have a plan for you ,you are doing all you can , maybe the professionals can advise

I am very sorry to hear of your sad predicament moom.I think you would get more responses if you started your own thread. As you are new I suggest you contact Granset ,tell them where your post is and ask them to re-post it for you. You will find the email address under FAQs at the top of the page. Do persevere as I am sure there are many on here who could help.

Thank you for all your kind wishes. Posting late after funeral over very emotional and moving so sad to say goodbye but she is at peace now. Your thoughts have made this day berable.thank you x