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MawBroonsback Tue 18-Jun-19 10:28:25

I wish this was not one of my worst weaknesses.
It’s not laziness (I think) but usually something I don’t really want to do which I put off and off perhaps in the hope it won’t be necessary. Taking Hattie to kennels (even booking) for example. I have known for weeks that I am going on a weekend granny duty on Thursday afternoon but have just steeled myself to ring the kennels.

I have 4 bags ready in the garage for the charity shop, but perhaps I don’t really want to part with the contents? (Including some of Paw’s things)

Putting it off does not make it go away and when I do get round to ticking things off my to-do list I feel as if a load has been lifted off my shoulders.
So why?
Anyone else suffer? I would so like to be like the Nike ad - and “just do it! “

Anniebach Tue 18-Jun-19 10:32:48

I have always been the same. My elder daughter use to say
‘Your doing a Scarlet O’Hara again ‘. ‘I will think about it tomorrow ‘ 😀

Whitewavemark2 Tue 18-Jun-19 10:34:08


henetha Tue 18-Jun-19 10:35:02

I would like to claim the title of World Champion of Procrastination!
I drive myself mad with this. And yes, like you, MawBroonsback, I feel so much better after finally making myself do something positive, and yet I continue to be as
procrastinating as ever.
If you find a cure, can you let me know? smile

Whitewavemark2 Tue 18-Jun-19 10:35:31

Actually I’m procrastinating now, and most of the time I spend on here. There is always something else I should be doing. This is a terrible time waster.

kittylester Tue 18-Jun-19 10:39:29

Ooww, me! I have lists of things that need doing all over the place and I'm sure I've lost one. Now I'm in a panic.

silverlining48 Tue 18-Jun-19 10:50:47

With you all the way maw. Sounds like me to a tee.

Silverlady79 Tue 18-Jun-19 10:57:30

Ironing. It’s always the ironing. I have every excuse under the’s not the right time of day..or’s too hot to iron, it’s too cold to iron. The board isn’t to hand, I can’t find the iron. Ironing is too dry. I’ve run out of spray starch goes on and when the procrastination is REALLY REALLY bad I bung it all back in the wash. The shame of it!

Witzend Tue 18-Jun-19 10:58:09

I'm terrible, too. So many things I put off because I frankly CBA.

Though funnily enough, yesterday I dug out a cardigan - a beautiful alpaca intarsia thing with a floral pattern, which I literally hadn't worn for years because the little bastard moths had been at it. It's been in a plastic bag all that time, waiting to see if I'd ever get around to trying to save it. It was an expensive present from dh so I'd felt bad about it for ages.

And I did actually mend it! There must have been 8 separate small moth holes, but thanks to the multi-coloured pattern and my stash of threads and yarns, they honestly hardly show.

I then very carefully hand washed it as recommended, with bar soap, so fingers Xed.
Now for some of those other things I've been putting off for ever...

FarNorth Tue 18-Jun-19 10:59:38

blush moi aussi

I've even used a self-hypnosis cd to persuade myself to get on with things and to achieve!

No change. sigh....

FarNorth Tue 18-Jun-19 11:01:18

Well done, Witzend! sunshine

MawBroonsback Tue 18-Jun-19 11:02:49

when the procrastination is REALLY REALLY bad I bung it all back in the wash. The shame of it

Been there, done that!
Summer blouses in the ironing basket since last Summer! blush

b1zzle Tue 18-Jun-19 11:07:29

So reassuring to know I'm not alone. I should be ironing, but … (my excuse is that if I do the ironing, then there won't be anything left that needs doing, so I'll be redundant).

Yangste1007 Tue 18-Jun-19 11:07:31

I'm not a procrastinator but my husband is. Even to the point where I've cooked dinner, it is sitting on the table and he starts putting stuff in the dishwasher or clearing the kitchen. Anything to put off actually sitting down to eat and No, my food isn't that bad!!! Hence, dinner is lukewarm bordering on cold by the time he gets around to eating it. We've been married for 35 years and he's never been any different but it is the one main thing that annoys me. When he say's "I'm going to do....." , I take it with a pinch of salt, say nothing and wait for nothing to happen.

jessycake Tue 18-Jun-19 11:07:41

This is me, I must admit I am also a little bit lazy too . I wish I were different , I want to be one of those people always on the go ,with a spotless house and lots of friends and hobbies .

Squiffy Tue 18-Jun-19 11:08:29

I'm the same. What I just don't understand is that I know how good I feel after I have actually done something that's I've been procrastinating over for days months. So, knowing that, why don't I just get on and do stuff?

frankie74 Tue 18-Jun-19 11:10:28

Ha....I recognise myself Maw. When I'm procrastinating it's like I'm made of lead. Even for really important things like tax declaration. I'm better if there's a deadline looming, imposed by whoever. Then I work to the deadline, but at least it gets done. I also have a mental list of displacement activities which are less awful than the thing I'm (not) contemplating. Then at least SOMETHING gets done. Now, where's that wet paint that needs watching.....?

Nannytopsy Tue 18-Jun-19 11:21:54

Me too and I recognise the "I'm made of lead"! Should have done so much this morning but spent most of it on my phone.

grannysyb Tue 18-Jun-19 11:30:23

Should be cleaning the house! But it's fine here so am taking the opportunity to tidy the garden. I HATE cleaning!

KatyK Tue 18-Jun-19 11:31:48

I used to be indecisive but now I'm not so sure

Overthehills Tue 18-Jun-19 11:38:29

Yes, it’s me!
Always tomorrow, this afternoon, next week ...
They are my clothes in the ironing pile too. And the mending pile. And the refugee pile.
Those are my bulges too because, yes obviously, I’ll start the diet tomorrow.
Maw you are not alone.
Just off to get the ironing board out. Or maybe just wait till the tennis is on ...

FarNorth Tue 18-Jun-19 11:38:34

I've got the ironing problem sorted! I almost never do any, unless it's something for a special occasion.
Tidy folding means most things are fine without ironing, imo.

dragonfly46 Tue 18-Jun-19 11:40:41

Yep I am just the same and it is true you feel so much better when the deed is done but getting round to doing it is another matter!
I too have a list of a list of a list ......

tanith Tue 18-Jun-19 11:45:07

Me too, I have things in a box in the garage and clothes in a wardrobe of DHs all ready to go to the charity shop they’ve been there since Christmas maybe as Mawbroon says I’m not yet ready to let them go.
I also put off making GP app, hairdresser app, making calls I know I need to I’ve always been this way I guess there’s no cure 🤣

Grammaretto Tue 18-Jun-19 11:46:14

It is a condition. I even bought a book once called "Do it Now". I haven't got round to reading it yet.....

DH is possibly worse than me. We had our floor sanded last week and DH was still at his desk in the room when the men arrived. He'd been saying I will move my desk- just leave it to me, for weeks.
Of course it all happened in a few seconds once it began so why?

Womans Hour featured an editor explaining how she dealt with procrastinating writers, of whom there are many, by toying with their deadlines. She'd tell them the article was due in a week but it was really longer so that the tension built up as she knew that creative people need the motivation of a deadline to begin