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Lessismore Wed 31-Jul-19 22:22:15

The weather is awful, it's not even August and the nights are drawing in. My husband has an irritating cough and the cat has disappeared.

GagaJo Tue 03-Sep-19 23:51:08

Specific to some (not all!) GN members. Who seem to be stuck in the past, to totally lack empathy for others who live lives or have experiences different to themselves and who perpetually sit in bloody judgement of others! Why, I have no idea.

Really ticks me off (I wanted to use a stronger, more offensive phrase but am self censoring!).

MissAdventure Tue 03-Sep-19 23:51:53

Thanks BradfordLass smile

I shall give slippery elm a try, I think.

BradfordLass72 Wed 04-Sep-19 06:46:14

GagaJo

I find 'pipped off' is an acceptable alternative, as in:
'I'm totally pipped off with all this blasted negativity.'

Works for me grin

DanniRae Wed 04-Sep-19 08:11:27

notanan - I feel for you with the mismatched wallpaper. Would it be possible to repaper the wall that has the offending strip with a plain paper that picks up a colour in the original paper, if you see what I mean?
Good Luck!!

Rufus2 Wed 04-Sep-19 11:14:07

Specific to some (not all!) GN members
Why, I have no idea.
GagaJo! Can I hope you're including me out?
I have ideas, but I'm all for a quiet happy life.! grin

GagaJo Wed 04-Sep-19 16:08:21

Haha, Rufus2, I've no idea if you're one of them or not. I find it hard to remember psuedonyms of any, other than the most obnoxious.

Yes, Bradfordlass72, pipped off is indeed a polite alternative!

annsixty Wed 04-Sep-19 16:38:11

I go out most Thursday afternoon with a very good friend.
She kindly picks me up, we go for a coffee and look round the garden centre and then she will take me to Aldi or M&S simply food just for bits.
She does not like being in the house and has a rota of friends she sees weekly.
If she can’t manage one week or I can’t then we pick up the following week.
The last two weeks her Wednesday friend hasn’t been able to make it so she has come out with us, it is happening again tomorrow.
Why am I not invited to do Wednesday with them or Monday with her other friends when it not convenient for her or me.
I can only assume she likes them more than me.
Am I paranoid.?

eazybee Wed 04-Sep-19 17:55:25

Have you experienced 'friends' lecturing you now on what you shouldn't be doing? The type of people who used to display 'This is a no-smoking zone' posters in their houses, and have multiple televisions in their homes, but 'never have time to watch TV'.
For example:
reference to grilling a piece of meat:
oh, you shouldn't be eating beef now
discussing crowded trains :
people should cut down on their journeys, not expect more carriages (this from someone who so far this year has had separate holidays in Corfu, Sicily and France, and I don't think she walked);
replacing a burnt-out 25 year-old Kenwood Chef with an updated version:
you should have things repaired, (where?), not throw them away.

The New Puritans?

granfromafar Wed 04-Sep-19 18:06:53

Only just seen this thread and haven't really got time to read 22 pages but some comments are so hilarious I will make time! Been on day trip with OH and had lovely lunch closely followed by a cream tea. Dont feel like eating for several hours but OH just asked 'What's for tea?'

SparklyGrandma Thu 05-Sep-19 00:19:55

eazybee yes that’s annoying, especially the eat this or eat that brigade.

BradfordLass72 Thu 05-Sep-19 04:02:56

annsixty Am I paranoid
Only if the Monday-Wednesday friends are plotting a coup to oust you from Thursdays. Beware enclaves of whispering older ladies. smile Especially on the Ides of September.

eazybee I serpently have, for the past 60 years at least.

Even complete strangers take it upon themselves to give me 'remedies' (for my own good of course), so I can lose weight and become thin.

The assumption being of course that:
a) I want to.
b) my size, shape and weight are to do only with my choice and consumption of food.
c) it's any of their damned business.

My thin Korean friend, who eats far, far more than me and never puts on an ounce (and we all know them) is quite entitled to eat an icecream as we walk through the park but if I am seen with one it almost causes a riot.

Ye gods! Fat people eating ice creams! Run for the hills! Call out the Diet Police! "Is it any wonder she's fat?" "No wonder the health system is stretched as tight as her knickers."

Nor, apparently, are we allowed cake or fried foods or chocolate; eating at fast food outlets or restaurants, all of which I have been told to eschew by people who have absolutely NO idea of my diet and food preferences.

I often wonder how well it would go down if I walked into their homes and had the cheek to tell them what to eat or
do.

No one seems to believe....in the face of massive grin evidence to the contrary.... that it is possible to be fit, fat, active, HAPPY and healthy.

Fortunately, I know better and regard these people who know so much better than I about my body, as cretinous morons with a much greater 'weight problem' than I could ever have.

I'll get me coat.......

MissAdventure Thu 05-Sep-19 13:39:47

20 minutes to do my 'homework' set by the counsellor.
This isn't working for me at all.
In fact, its giving me the hump!

GagaJo Thu 05-Sep-19 14:03:18

Bradfordlass72 AMEN SISTAH!!!! You are preaching to the choir here.

SparklyGrandma Sat 07-Sep-19 22:02:11

Bradfordlass well said... I am a bit curvy 😁 and the comments irritate me but I ignore them. If pushed, I say both of my grandmothers were plump, apple shaped definitely overweight. One lived to age 94 the other to 89.

Boom boom!

GagaJo Sat 07-Sep-19 22:25:58

SparklyGrandma, YES, my granny too. 96 and still ornery.

BradfordLass72 Sun 08-Sep-19 03:41:23

This is one of my grandmothers - she was a farmer/farmer's wife and extremely hard-working and active because her husband was not a well man.

If she hadn't ploughed and harvested (with shire horses), they would have lost the farm.

This was the lady I've mentioned before who also ran the farm cafe at weekends and holidays. The farm was on a lane popular with country ramblers and on a direct route between beauty spots.

I'm told they could serve 100-200 teas a day in high summer and grandmother did all the baking for that.

Our farm as it was. It has to be sold when my grandfather was diagnosed with throat cancer. No cure in those days. He died in 1947.

Rufus2 Sun 08-Sep-19 03:52:09

YES, my granny too. 96 and still ornery.
GagaJo; Wow! Has she still got a phone number? wink
I'll bet all the old fellas in her retirement home are frightened stiff come bedtime! Oh dear; double entendres again! Sorry!. shock

SparklyGrandma Tue 10-Sep-19 04:04:22

She looks marvellous Bradfordlass, and GagaJo 96 is a wonderful age to reach....