Hetty58 It's not just about dress. It is the fact that men can self-define.
Jessica Yaniv is suing a beauty salon in Canada because the beauticians have refused to wax his testicles. He defines as a woman, but has not transitioned, and has filed 16 complaints against the women in the salon, who have not been trained to wax male genitalia, and argue that female clients would be uncomfortable being treated next to an exposed man, however he self-defines. In this particular case, Yaniv has been exposed as a predatory paedophile, and the trans community in Canada have rejected him as 'not being really trans'.
Is this fair to the women (staff or clients) in the salon? Women are being expected to just step aside and let men into their spaces simply because the men have claimed to consider themselves female. This is a particularly high profile case; but there are many instances which are less obviously ridiculous.
The Gender Recognition Act is a minefield, and not because of bigotry or right-wing anything, which is particularly unfair on young people who genuinely want to (and need to) transition.
The issue is becoming increasingly binary, with people who question the massive increase in the number of young people coming forward as trans being derided as 'TERFS' (Trans-Exclusionary Radical Feminists) - there are even 'TERF blockers' on Twitter, so that their tweets cannot be heard.
My own view on all of this is, as I have said, is simply that it is complicated. My first instinct is to live and let live, and be supportive of young people (or older ones) who are unhappy, but I also feel that there are parts of the debate that are uncomfortable, but need to be considered.