Feeling dismissed.

Alexa,

So who takes care of homemakers and gives them a well deserved break - vs working hours?
Which schedule do the homemakers have?

As a working mother, neither being in the work place or running the home is easier than the other. All have responsibility to the home and the children while they are within it.

Hithere *So who takes care of homemakers and gives them a well deserved break - vs working hours?
Which schedule do the homemakers have?*

Exactly Hithere! "Homemakers" are just there to service everybody else apparently!!

OP you are doing an amazing job. In terms of your offers of help being turned down, I think your DIL may be just trying to be a mum to her kids; she may well not think about how the rejection feels to you or even be aware of how it might feel.

I do think you need a chat about clearing up the toys ...a bit of honesty about its lovely to have them with you but the toys just left out is difficult for you so could you both discuss the best way to deal with that ...even talk about being nervous of tripping over them and falling which I certainly would be!

Apparently homemakers never get a break.

How extremely outdated and misogynistic.

Yes I saw you said “man or woman” as homemakers, but we all know what you meant.

Working outside the home doesn’t absolve one parent of house work or child care.

Sharon62, I noticed a change in personality when my late husband became ill. He was not himself, lost his lovely sense of humour and tended to blame me for all sorts of things. I think it had nothing to do with medication. It was just that he'd lost his health and along with it, his previous identity.