Own up ! Do you do this ?

I try always to be pleasant and constructive. I think it's better to say nothing than to say something sharp as you never know how much sharp words might wound.

I try to be and hold a concern that the intent of the written word can be misinterpreted.

I have never,yet, been purposely nasty, in any aspect of my life. And if I unwittingly upset anyone ,I would apologise. I think people who are anonymous and nasty are cowards

No, I don’t do this.
I especially don’t like colleagues who send sharp/aggressive/snarky emails, when there is no need for such tone.
I really try to be pleasant and polite to everyone.
Equally I don’t like the tone of some of the GN threads, especially the political ones, so I avoid them.

I don't feel anonymous. I know at least ten Gransnetters having been to a variety of meetups over the years. I am just the same here as in real life.

I think maybe I am nicer online than I am in RL ! I certainly think I come across as more reasoned and sensible, as I have time to frame my thoughts.

Probably nicer on here, so no I won't own up to being nasty anonymously.

But are you anonymous? I know I’ve been ‘outed’. And no, I’m not any nastier on line than I am in real life. Why be hurtful?

I think I am myself on GN. At all times in real life I do try to be friendly and helpful tho I can and do stick up for myself.

I’m 70 and told I look younger. Possibly helps that I do have thick hair and a funky cut. However, I’d guess that I’m not as funky as I fancy myself to be. Especially getting a helping hand on steep steps etc.

I always try to be fair and understanding even with those who have opposing views. I cannot understand people who are intentionally rude or argumentative.

I am not anonymous, as have met up with several Essex Grannies.

Same here

Good point. I’m also not anonymous and imagine that is true for many of us.

Not at all sure about the tone/meaning of the OP!

I'm not anonymous. Sometimes I'm sufficiently irritated by a post/poster to write a nippy response. Probably because I'm human!

I am not anonymous on here as I have been to several meet ups. But I would hope I would never be deliberately nasty.

I never say anything that I couldn't say to someones face , I don't think I am nasty , but I do believe in being honest

aggie I d say the same I wouldn’t say anything here that I wouldn’t say in normal life
I can’t butter up though I do say what I feel but never ever been knowingly nasty

I don't understand the OP.

What are we supposed to be owning up to? Being nasty? Or being nice?

I am pretty much the same online and in real life. I'm usually even tempered and tolerant but I can certainly be sharp if I think the situation warrants it.

Yesterday, for instance, a friend of mine (64) almost tripped

She's a very big lady and walks with a stick. Several people went towards her to assist as she said, 'I really don't want to fall, I find it so hard to get up.'

One guy (I confess, I don't like him) said, 'It'd take a crane to get you up!' laughing as if this is a joke.

I snapped at him, 'Don't be so bloody rude!' and the whole room fell silent.

I know those present would have preferred me to keep my big trap shut but even had she been a complete stranger, I would have defended agains such rudeness.

I think the OP is Father Christmas and they are vetting us for the naughty or nice list ???

Well done BradfordLass. I like that.

I’m not anonymous either having met lots of GNers, even had holidays with them as well as coffee meet ups and meals out.
Am much the same in RL as on here, can do robust when needed but only on political and news threads.Generally I prefer to keep things light.?

YesGG13 ....I think you could be right, and I want lots of presents this year as I have been amazingly good and patient when on threads here.?

The thing is one posters nasty can be another posters normal.
So it’s possible to be offended when no offence was intended. Or cause offence when none was intended .
We don’t have the benefit of reading body language or hearing tone of voice , but on saying that the meaning of the written can be very clear indeed. ... ..