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Train anxiety

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TwiceAsNice Thu 05-Dec-19 08:20:17

This probably seems trivial to most people but yesterday I made a train journey on my own for the first time in a very long time. I don’t know why but train travel on my own makes me very anxious ( other transport is fine) so I avoid it. Yesterday I really wanted to go to a special event so made myself get the train from local station into London for it. DD2 met me and we continued journey together so I didn't have to change trains on my own. That’s the next stage for me but I was so relieved I was ok and a little bit proud that I managed it.

ayse Thu 05-Dec-19 08:25:24

Well done. Sometimes seemingly simple things can cause anxiety. Keep up the good work

Anniebach Thu 05-Dec-19 08:47:23

Brilliant TwiceAsNice, you faced your fear and won.

Be proud, very proud. X

Newquay Thu 05-Dec-19 08:47:33

Good for you-you did it, despite your anxiety and had your DD meet you to help. So many folk I know won’t even try, so sad.

Maggiemaybe Thu 05-Dec-19 08:48:15

Well done! It’s hard to face our fears and you are quite right to feel proud of yourself. flowers

DoraMarr Thu 05-Dec-19 08:54:09

Pat on the back from me, first for making the journey, and then for talking about it here.

Jane10 Thu 05-Dec-19 08:55:21

Well done! Where to next?

GrannyGravy13 Thu 05-Dec-19 09:02:41

Well done Twiceasnice

Urmstongran Thu 05-Dec-19 09:16:01

No wonder you feel pleased with your achievement. Well done you! You will feel like Superwoman today.

Mapleleaf Thu 05-Dec-19 09:25:54

Well done, you have every right to feel proud of your achievement. Onwards and upwards now. 😁

EllanVannin Thu 05-Dec-19 09:34:14

There'll be no stopping you now Twiceasnice. This actually does happen in that you'll be wanting " another go ", so well done yourself.

blondenana Thu 05-Dec-19 09:42:34

Well done, i love train journeys,even on my own
My fear is escalators, going down them i can cope with going up

Shelmiss Thu 05-Dec-19 10:09:09

That's brilliant well done. I can understand how good that made you feel.

My anxiety comes from trying to find parking somewhere that I don't know. I could drive 1001 miles on motorways and roads that I don't know but parking when i get there.....confused

Calendargirl Thu 05-Dec-19 10:15:22

I think we all have what might seem like irrational fears to others. And it gets worse as we age, I know I like my comfort blanket of security in what I know and trust.
One thing I never do is put petrol in the car, something DH always does. Daft I know. But then he never uses a cash machine. Obviously stuff we would do if left on our own. Hope that day is a long way off.

Squiffy Thu 05-Dec-19 10:18:21

Well done! Train journeys can be very daunting, so that was a massively positive step tchsmile

Squiffy Thu 05-Dec-19 10:20:22

blondenana I hate going down escalators, too. Have you tried turning sideways so that you're not facing the 'abyss'?

cornergran Thu 05-Dec-19 10:20:47

I’ve never been on a train on my own, in fact rarely go on a train . I know I’d be the same. Well done twiceasnice. Onwards and upwards.

Chestnut Thu 05-Dec-19 10:28:53

I get rather anxious using any form of transport other than car, and I don't have one any more. I think it's the worry of missing the train, especially if there's a connection. I panic at the thought of being stranded at the station and my train already left! I had a very close call a couple of years ago when they changed platforms and at the last minute I had to rush up and down stairs and walk some distance. Only just made it. That freaks me out.

polnan Thu 05-Dec-19 10:41:19

I have to get used to bus travel! done one journey on my own, but I don`t understand the timetables. and terrified of going the wrong way!

endlessstrife Thu 05-Dec-19 10:44:15

I don’t like going anywhere on my own, no matter what the transportation is. I’ve been like it all my life. My husband has been everywhere for his jobs, and I always said it’s a good job he was the breadwinner and not me. I was a stay at home mum. I was always fine driving around locally with the children etc. but to go somewhere new, even around my local area, I preferred my husband with me. I suffered terrible motion sickness as a child, so could never really take note of any surroundings whilst travelling. I’ve also made mistakes and got lost, so I think all this has put me off. If I don’t need to go somewhere, then I don’t. I’m 60 now, and will keep avoiding it if I have to!

endlessstrife Thu 05-Dec-19 10:49:25

ps, I was worried my children would turn out like me, but they didn’t, they all go all over the place quite happily, train, car, bus, plane whatever. I’ve been on a train on my own twice in my whole life! Pathetic isn’t it?

nipsmum Thu 05-Dec-19 10:51:36

Well done you. Its difficult as you get older to push yourself to do things out of your comfort zone. My daughter is very good at giving me encouragement and of course its rarely as bad as I expected.

kwest Thu 05-Dec-19 10:54:16

Fantastic. Well Done. You did what is known as 'take baby steps. It is a brilliant way of overcoming fears without stepping too far out of your comfort zone. No one can fail at this because if it does not work out quite as you might have hoped, it simply means that you placed the boundary too far away, you just need to bring it in a bit and try again. It is all done at your own speed so there is no pressure to perform. You should be very proud of yourself.

Gingergirl Thu 05-Dec-19 10:57:47

How wonderful! Very uplifting! Life can be full of anxieties and sometimes I think we just have to do these things. Feel pleased with yourself ...and for anyone else reading this, know that we can get past our anxieties....even if it takes some extra support or practise.

Witchypoo Thu 05-Dec-19 11:02:58

Well done you. Feel proud.
That is on my list of things to overcome with my anxiety. I want to go to the seaside but am a long way away from using a train on my own. Congratulations. You are on roll. You can tackle anything