I am so sorry you had this experience. it is humiliating and makes you feel as if you are a liar and a cheat. This happens to people in need all the time. And is why people in the past hated and refused charity and were desperate to manage without. Charitable giving of all sorts may make the people who give feel good about themselves but it is often at the cost of the dignity of the recipients. In my opinion, we shouldn’t have to have people depending on charity for food. We should have a properly funded and managed social security system that would support us all in dignity when we need it. However I know that people have voted against this.
New house and a sloping garden